It would be hard today to find an old-fashioned boardinghouse to spend the night and eat a meal with the other boarders.

Not impossible, but difficult, and yet less than a century ago boardinghouses covered the towns and cities where Americans came together for eating and sleeping.

Although most boardinghouses might be gone today, memories are firm.

Elizabeth Engelhardt, Kenan Eminent Professor of Southern Studies at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, has collected hundreds of them for her new book, “Boardinghouse Women: How Southern Keepers, Cooks, Nurses, Widows, and Runaways Shaped Modern America,”to be published by UNC press in November.

Engelhardt cites examples of how women escaped irrelevance and became accomplished and independent businesspeople as the owners and operators of boardinghouses in the nineteenth and early twentiethcenturies.

One of her examples, Julia Wolfe, ran the Old Kentucky Home boardinghouse in Asheville at the turn of the last century. The experiences in her boardinghouse formed an important basis for her son Thomas Wolfe’s novel, “Look Homeward Angel.”

Engelhardt writes, “So intertwined was her identity with the business, Wolfe did not allow herself to have even small luxuries in her own private quarters of the house. A ‘plain cot’ without a headboard and a ‘single chair’ were the only furnishings in her room. Julia Wolfe became the face of her boardinghouse and the driver of its operations — roles she played for the rest of her life.”

Another famous boardinghouse child, the late New York Times food critic Craig Claiborne, said that his love of food came from his experiences in his mother's boardinghouse.

Engelhardt has assembled scores of other examples where ambitious or desperate women struggled to make their boardinghouse business successful. She also shows how the boardinghouse experiences of women had an impact on the typical foods that we today call southern.

I have my own boardinghouse memory.

At Davidson College, when I was growing up, there were 12 fraternities. Each had a boardinghouse in town — for eating only. The boardinghouse woman in charge was called a housemother. Each fraternity also had a small cottage on the campus for formal fraternity activities. But the real activity centered around the boardinghouses in the town. In about 1957, the college built a brand-new fraternity court and brought the eating and social activities of the fraternities onto the campus centered in the new fraternity houses.

The housemothers moved from town, each into a comfortable apartment in the new fraternity house. Each one continued to supervise a staff and was in charge of preparing the three meals a day. It was a big operation. Not all the housemothers were happy. As a part of my temporary job as assistant dean of students, I was charged with looking out for the housemothers and doing what I could to make them happier.

I did my best.

About 20 years later when I was a Charlotte lawyer running as a Democrat for the U. S. Congress, I stopped by an apartment building in the Myers Park area of Charlotte to make a few campaign cold calls on some of the residents.

When I knocked on one door, a charming older lady greeted me, “Oh D.G., I am so glad to see you. When I was a housemother at Davidson you were so wonderful to me. You paid attention to us. You arranged for a meeting with the president and the dean. Things got better. I’ll always be grateful.”

I was thrilled with this encounter. Campaign workers were hard to come by and she would certainly be a supporter of my political efforts.

But when I asked her if she would help give out campaign literature in her building, she said, “Oh no, D.G., I would never do that. I'm a Republican.”

Another tough boardinghouse woman!

Editor’s Note: D.G. Martin, a retired lawyer, served as UNC-System’s vice president for public affairs and hosted PBS-NC’s North Carolina Bookwatch.

Wine enthusiasts and connoisseurs, mark your calendars because a splendid evening awaits you at The Sip Room, located at 106 Hay Street. On Nov. 16, from 6 to 8 p.m., The Sip Room will become a haven for wine lovers, promising an unforgettable wine-tasting experience.

Guests will have the unique opportunity to embark on a journey through various countries' finest wines, all within the welcoming embrace of this chic venue.

The Sip Room has earned a reputation for offering a cozy and refined atmosphere for wine lovers, making it the perfect setting for this event.

The main highlight of the evening is, of course, the vast array of wines on offer. From the rich reds of Italy to the crisp whites of New Zealand, the wine selection promises to tantalize the taste buds of seasoned oenophiles and those new to the world of wine.

The event will feature sommeliers and wine experts ready to guide patrons through the nuances of each wine, helping them discover new favorites.
To complement this elegant experience, The Sip Room has brought in the hottest DJ in the city to provide a lively backdrop of music throughout the evening. The vibrant beats and rhythms will keep the atmosphere energetic, ensuring that this is not just a wine tasting but a celebration of the senses.

Up & Coming Weekly caught up with the owners, Juawana Colbert, Tomeka Purcell and Santina Epps-Thomas to gain insight into the wine selection process.

“The wine selection process featured in our wine-tasting event at The Sip Room is a meticulous and passionate endeavor. We believe in offering our patrons a diverse and exceptional range of wines that represent different regions and embody the artistry and craftsmanship of winemakers worldwide.

"Our team of sommeliers and wine experts dedicate extensive time and effort to curate a selection combining classic and lesser-known gems,” they said.

So, what makes this wine-tasting event particularly special?

“Our wine-tasting event at The Sip Room is an extraordinary occasion for several reasons.

"First and foremost, it's an immersive experience where wine lovers and novices alike can come together in a sophisticated and relaxed setting. We encourage attendees to mark their calendars because this event promises an unforgettable evening of sophistication, flavor, and entertainment.

"It's a fantastic opportunity to expand your wine knowledge, socialize with fellow enthusiasts, and create lasting memories.”

For those eager to participate in this delightful evening, tickets are available at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/wine-tasting-the-sip-room-tickets-731143097687. Ensure you secure your spot in advance, as the demand for this wine-tasting event is expected to be high.

The Sip Room's Wine Tasting Event on Thursday, Nov. 16, promises an evening of sophistication, flavor, and fantastic music. Join them as they raise their glasses to exquisite wines and the joy of savoring life's finer things.

Ageism is defined as discrimination against older adults with predefined stereotypes. It begins around fifty years old, when an individual is being defined as growing old. We are inundated with ads targeted toward those growing old with how we look, dress, eat, live and maintain health.

I think info commercials are the worst with leading claims of countless gimmicks of how something changed someone’s life. Recently I had a man come to the house to discuss doing some work.
He proceeded to talk to me, with what he thought was a good sales pitch.

“You know people try to take advantage of 'Elderly People.'”

I rather found this offensive because by comparing the two of us it was obvious that I was in much better physical shape than he was, and he was not that much younger than me.

I said, “I hope you are not referring me to being elderly, sir, because I could kick you into next week!”

He began to backtrack his statement. He was not called back to be hired.

“Elderly” is defined as someone sixty-five years or older with silver hair. I guess we need to add sitting in a rocking chair to that definition.

The “young old” is approximately 65 to 74, “middle age,” 75 to 84, and “old old,” over 85. I refer to the definition of “elderly as a physical and cognitive capability,” and someone could be considered a state of “elderly” at a much younger age. The term “I am ageless” has a more positive approach to age, and let us face it, we begin aging the day we are born.

Today’s seniors are not the stereotypical images of our parents retiring and going home to rest. Who wants to rest? The modern senior enjoys life and knows how to do it.

They do not feel the need to be anything to anyone except themselves, are not governed by social status, and try to fit in, where they live or with what they have. Priorities are easier set and “no as an answer” has become part of our vocabulary.

“Been there done that” is a frequent go-to as part of a conversation. You have arrived at your stage of life. You know what you do and do not want, and you set your boundaries with gained confidence.

You have confidence because you know what and what not to say and often find that wisdom is a part of not saying anything or getting involved. Your circle of friends may begin to get smaller as you discover who is there for you and who is there for convenience.

Today's seniors are well-read, hip and many still work because they prefer to in the way of part-time employment or by volunteering. They are an asset to any work environment because they are dependable and have good work ethics.

They bring a wealth of knowledge to work because they simply have experience in life. Many companies are gearing toward older workers because of skills based on experience and are less likely to jump from one job to another because it does not suit them.

I work at a fitness center that caters to an older clientele, and as a personal trainer and group fitness instructor, that is my preference for a client to work with.

The reason is that lifestyle is all about functional movement and the ability to continue an active lifestyle. It is not about the latest diet or being skinny, because health comes in all sizes. On any given day you will find that the “elderly generation” outperforms the younger ones.

Live love life with passion.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 8

ADULT CRAFT: THANKSGIVING LUMINARIES

SPRING LAKE COMMUNITY LIBRARY

3 p.m.

November is here, and Thanksgiving is right around the corner.  You have the menu planned out but what about your holiday decorations? Looking to add some pizzazz to your Thanksgiving decorations? Why not craft a stunning Thanksgiving luminary using tissue paper and personalize it with a festive message of your own? Registration is required by calling (910) 483-7727 ext. 1459.

Registration & Event Link: https://bit.ly/3QCoD6p

THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 9

PETER AND THE STARCATCHER

FAYETTEVILLE TECHNICAL COMMUNITY COLLEGE

7 p.m.

FTCC Fine Arts is excited to present "Peter and the Starcatcher," a captivating play written by Rick Elise. This delightful production is based on the novel penned by Dave Barry and Ridley Pearson and offers audiences a heartwarming origin tale of well-loved characters such as Peter Pan, Mrs. Darling, Tinker Bell, and Hook. Join us for a family-friendly experience that will transport you to a world of magic and adventure. All performances are free and open to the public and will take place in the Cumberland Hall Auditorium.

Facebook Event Link: https://bit.ly/46UE2EW

FRIDAY, NOVEMBER `10

SWEETS N' ART

SWEET FACTORY FAYETTEVILLE

6 p.m.

Join Sweet Factory Fayetteville for a fun and imaginative afternoon with the incredibly talented artist, Stephanie Mollett, at "Sweets n' Art" - an amazing event created specifically for children aged 6 and above. Embrace your artistic side, unleash your creativity, and savor delectable treats from Sweet Factory, all in a truly unforgettable experience! $15 Tickets include all arts and crafts materials, professional guidance from Stephanie Mollett, and a sweet treat from Sweet Factory.

Eventbrite Link: https://bit.ly/3FI4wgX

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 11

FTCC HOLIDAY BAZAAR

FAYETTEVILLE TECHNICAL COMMUNITY COLLEGE

10 a.m.

Join the FTCC Gaming and Digital Media Club for their FTCC Holiday Bazaar. This event will feature a total of twenty-seven vendors selling unique and handcrafted items, as well as five food vendors for attendees to enjoy. Come support local artists and creators!  Admission is free and open to the public. The bazaar will take place at Tony Rand Student Center, 2220 Hull Road.

Facebook Event Link: https://bit.ly/46VGgE7

SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 11

RIDE FOR A WREATH

FORT BRAGG HARLEY DAVIDSON &

DIRTY WHISKEY CRAFT COCKTAIL BAR

8 a.m.

Join us for a ride and be a part of our mission to honor and remember our fallen U.S. veterans. All vehicles are welcome as we come together to raise funds for placing wreaths on the graves of veterans at both Sandhills State Veterans Cemetery and Fort Liberty Main Post Cemetery. It's an opportunity to teach your children the true value of freedom and show our gratitude to those who have served. REGISTRATION: Begins at 8:00am at Fort Bragg Harley Davidson (3950 Sycamore Dairy Rd.) $20 per bike - $10 per passenger

Facebook Event Link: https://bit.ly/3u3qEQ8

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 12

DOG YOGA

PATRIOT K NINE TRAINING & BEHAVIOR

10 a.m.

Dog yoga, also referred to as "doga," is a type of yoga that entails engaging in yoga poses and exercises alongside your dog. It merges conventional yoga postures with movements and interactions that involve your four-legged companion. The objective of doga is to enhance the bond between humans and their canines while fostering relaxation, flexibility, and overall well-being for all participants. It can serve as an enjoyable method to spend quality time with your beloved pet while reaping the benefits of yoga. $20

Event Link: https://bit.ly/45RHM8J

MONDAY, NOVEMBER 13

FRIENDSHIP DANCE WITH THE COHARIE TRIBE

HOPE MILLS COMMUNITY LIBRARY

5 p.m.

The Coharie Tribe is situated near the Little Coharie River in Harnett and Sampson Counties. They offer various tribal community programs aimed at promoting the health and wellness, community development, and cultural vibrancy of the tribe. Tribal members will be present to educate us about their tribe, as well as lead a Friendship Dance and engage in crafting activities. For more information about this program, please call (910) 483-7727 ext. 1435.

Event Link: https://bit.ly/45WpTpl

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 14

TERRIFIC TUESDAY: RADICAL REPTILES

NORTH REGIONAL LIBRARY

3:30 p.m.

Interested in learning more about reptiles? Delight in entertaining and educational narratives, interactive activities, and creative projects centered around lizards, snakes, turtles, and other fascinating creatures with scales. Age Group: 6-11 years old. This program is designed for children and accompanying adults. Please plan to attend and be engaged with your child for this program. Drop offs will not be permitted.  For more information about this program, please call (910) 483-7727 ext. 1450.

Event Link: https://bit.ly/3u00o9t

The new moon is fast approaching. For community members who are in sync with the moon's cycles, this new moon is significant, and Prima Elements Holistic Wellness Center, located at 124 Anderson Street in downtown Fayetteville, is hosting a New Moon Meditation on Monday, Nov. 13th from 6 p.m. to 7:45 p.m.

Tickets are $15 and can be purchased online at Eventbrite.com. The event will include guided meditations or visualizations centered around goal setting, and manifesting dreams and personal goals.

For those unfamiliar with meditation classes, Prima Elements explains,

“A New Moon meditation class is a specific type of meditation session that typically occurs around the time of the New Moon. The New Moon is associated with new beginnings and a clean slate in astrology and many spiritual practices. During these classes, participants often focus on setting intentions, releasing what no longer serves them, and connecting with the energy of new possibilities…We provide a structured and supportive environment for individuals to tap into the energies of the New Moon and align their intentions with it.”

Phases of the moon and how they affect the world are not a foreign concept for many, especially here in the South, where full moons are credited for full birthing centers and jails. According to Prima Elements, each moon phase carries a different energy to be tapped into.

“The moon phases have been a source of fascination and belief for many cultures throughout history. While the scientific evidence for direct, profound effects on individuals is limited, some believe the moon can influence human behavior and emotions.

“Here's a general overview of how moon phases are thought to affect us: 1. New Moon: It's associated with new beginnings and setting intentions. Many people use this phase for goal setting and planning.

"2. Waxing Crescent: As the moon grows, it's believed to bring energy and momentum. People often feel more motivated during this phase.

"3. First Quarter: This phase is often seen as a time for taking action, making decisions, and overcoming challenges. The moon's gravitational pull influences Earth's tides, a scientifically established phenomenon. If you find that moon phases positively impact your mindset and well-being, it can be a valuable tool for personal growth and self-reflection.”

Owner and military veteran, Hilda Burgos, founded Prima Elements Holistic Wellness Center in 2012, and runs the business with her son, Adrian Burgos, and his wife, Audriaunna Burgos, managing the day-to-day operations of the Center.

Prima Elements Holistic Wellness Center is not new to meditation. They offer a host of different and unique holistic treatments for community members.

“Prima Elements provides holistic services to stressed and ailing individuals in the community. Our wellness center offers caring, expert clinicians and staff that provide natural remedies, massage, and detoxifying natural cleanses.
With a focus on holistic care and prevention, our wellness center has personalized its services to each patient, incorporating the mind, body, and spirit,” Burgos said.

The holiday season is often considered the most delightful period of the year. However, for individuals facing food insecurity or experiencing difficulties in finding their next meal, it does not bring the same joy and happiness. Luckily, there are numerous resources available in our locality to provide assistance to those who require it.

If you are aware of someone who is experiencing difficulties, kindly share these available resources with them. Alternatively, you can also consider reaching out to any of the organizations mentioned below to make a donation or offer your time as a volunteer. Let's work together to spread happiness during this festive season.

Food Pantry:

Name:The Beatitude House Ministries of the NSRBA

Location: New South River Baptist Association, 2341 Downing Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Thursday and Friday 10:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m., Saturday - 10:00 a.m. - 2:00 p.m.

Contact: 910-496-0925

Name:Operation Blessings

Location: AAA Crisis Pregnancy Center/Operation Blessing, 1337 Ramsey St., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday - Thursday 9:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. and 1:00 p.m. - 3:00 p.m.

Contact: 910-483-1119

Name:Salvation Army of Fayetteville

Location: Variety of Locations

Hours:Clients seen Monday - Friday 9:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. and 1:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m. by appointment only.

Contact: 910-483-8119

Name:Catholic Charities - Fayetteville Regional Office

Location: 726 Ramsey St., Suites 10 & 11, Fayetteville

Hours:Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday 9:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m.

Contact: 910-424-2020  ext. 2601

Name:Cliffdale Food Bank

Location: 6427 Cliffdale Rd., Fayetteville

Hours: Assistance given outonce a month on a Wednesday from 4:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m.

See Dates Here: https://www.cliffdalealive.com/calendar

Contact:910-864-4911

Name:Jehovah Jireh Christian Church

Location: 1913 Harris St., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday - Friday 9:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m. by appointment

Contact: (910) 423-1600

Name:Abney Chapel Community Services Center

Location: 330 Old Wilmington Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:

Contact: (910) 483-4384

Name:FTCC Food Pantry

Location: Horace Sisk Building (HOS), Room 708, 2204 Hull Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday – Friday 9:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m., Monday – Thursday 1:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m.

Contact:910-678-8214 / 910-678-8441

Name:Abney Chapel Seventh Day Adventist Church

Location: 2996 Rosehill Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Days of assistance change monthly.  Call ahead

Contact:910-488-8146

Name: Galatia Presbyterian Church

Location: 8800 Galatia Church Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Friday 9:00 a.m. - 11:00 a.m.

Contact:910-867-0656

Name:ALMS House

Location: 3909 Ellison St., Hope Mills

Hours:Monday - Friday 8:00 a.m - 5:00 p.m.

Contact:910-425-0902

Name:Operation Blessing of Fayetteville

Location: 1337 Ramsey St., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday - Thursday 9:00 a.m. - 2:30 p.m.

Contact:910-483-1119

Name:Beatitude House

Location: 102 N. Main St., Spring Lake

Hours:Thursday and Friday 10:30 a.m.-12:00 p.m. and 1:00 p.m. -3:00 p.m.

Contact:910-496-0925

Name: Christ United Methodist Church

Location: 3101 Raeford Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Tuesdays 10:00 a.m.-1:00 p.m.

Contact: 910-484-3340

Name:Epicenter Church

Location: 2512 Fort Bragg Rd., Fayetteville

Hours: Tuesday and Thursday 10:00 a.m.-12:00 p.m.

Contact:910-485-8855

Name:Fayetteville Dream Center

Location: 336 Ray Ave., Fayetteville

Hours:1st and 3rd Thursdays 10:00 a.m. – 12:00 p.m.

Contact:910-568-3897

Name:First Baptist Church

Location: 302 Moore St., Fayetteville

Hours:3rd Wednesday at 10:00 a.m.

Contact:910-483-6505

Name:Gray’s Creek Christian Center

Location: 3028 School Rd., Hope Mills

Hours:Monday, Wednesday and Friday 9:00 a.m – 12:00 p.m.

Contact:910-485-3005

Name:Meals that Matter

Location: First Presbyterian Church, 102 Ann St., Fayetteville

Hours:

Contact: 910-483-0121

Name:Harry Hosier United Methodist

Location: 6201 Milford Rd., Fayetteville

Hours: 1st & 3rd Friday, 10:00 a.m.-12:00 p.m.

Contact: 910-864-6019

Name:Mt. Olive Missionary Baptist Church

Location: 118 Johnson St., Fayetteville

Hours:Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday 10:00 a.m.-12:00 p.m.

Contact: 910-868-2770

Name:Person St. United Methodist Church

Location: 509 Person St., Fayetteville

Hours: 1st and 3rd Saturdays from 10:00 a.m.-12:30 p.m.

Contact: 910-483-4714

Name:Praise Fellowship Church of God

Location: 514 Adam St., Fayetteville

Hours:Available by appointment. Call for scheduling and availability.

Contact:910-483-6500

Name:Seth’s Wish

Location: 330 S. Cool Springs St., Fayetteville

Hours:Tuesday and Thursday 10:00 a.m.-2:00 p.m.

Contact:910-476-6613

Name:Simon Temple AME Zion Church

Location: 441 Donray Dr., Fayetteville

Hours:Tuesday and Thursday 9:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m.

Contact:910-867-1183

Name:St. Matthews United Methodist Church

Location: 202 Hope Mills Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Tuesday 10:00 a.m.-12:00 p.m.

Contact:910-425-0401

Name:True Vine Ministries

Location: 5301 Morganton Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Tuesday and Thursday 11:30 a.m. -1:30 p.m.

Contact: 910-867-6762

Name:Veterans Empowering Veterans

Location: 325 B St., Fayetteville

Hours: Call for hours.

Contact:910-223-3213

Name:City Rescue Mission

Location: 331 Adam St., Fayetteville

Hours:Call for specifics

Contact: 910-323-0446

Name: The Food Pantry

Location: Reilly Road Presbyterian Church. 208 S. Reilly Rd., Fayetteville

Hours: Monday and Wednesday 9:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m.

Contact:910-867-5773

Name:Holy Trinity Episcopal Church

Location: 1601 Raeford Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday - Thursday 11:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m.

Contact: 910.484.2134

Food Banks:

Name:Fayetteville Urban Ministry

Location: 701 Whitfield St., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday thru Thursday 9:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m.

Contact: 910-483-5944

Name:Second Harvest Food Bank of Southeast NC

Location: 406 Deep Creek Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday - Friday, 8:00 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.

Contact: 910-485-6923

Holiday Food Assistance Programs:

Name:Robeson County Church and Community Center - Brighter Christmas Program

Location: 600 West 5th St,, Lumberton

Hours:

Contact: 910-738-5204

Name:Thanksgiving Boxes of Love Drive

Location: All About Fitness, Inc.,  45 Treetop Dr., Fayetteville

Hours:

Contact:318-918-8580

Name:Operation Blessing of Fayetteville

Location: 1337 Ramsey St., Fayetteville

Hours:

Contact:910-483-1119

Name: Harvest Family Church

Location: 6575 Fisher Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:

Contact:910-433-3036

Name:Gethsemane Baptist Church

Location: 4300 Blanton Rd., Fayetteville

Hours:Wednesday 6:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m., Sunday 10:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m.

Contact: (910) 488-8725

Name:Fayetteville Operation Turkey 2023

Location: 606 Johnson St., Fayetteville

Hours:Meals will be handed out November 23rd 8:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m.

Contact: (866) 678-8751

Other Programs:

Name:Meals on Wheels

Location: Cumberland County Council on Older Adults, 339 Devers St., Fayetteville

Hours:Monday - Friday 8:00 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.

Contact: 910-484-0111

Love is one of the most intense emotions that is supposed to make an individual feel good and feel safe. Domestic violence is not.

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence reports that one in three women have experienced some form of physical violence by an intimate partner. That is why a Domestic Violence Awareness Exhibition Event will take place Saturday, Nov. 18, from 2 p.m. to 4 p.m. at the SIP room on Hay Street in downtown Fayetteville.

“The purpose of the event is to spread the knowledge of domestic violence awareness and to share resources for domestic violence awareness,” said Takieyah Mathis, founder of the Standing Light Foundation and event planner of the Love Shouldn’t Hurt Domestic Violence Awareness Exhibition event. “It is so important to know that there are other dynamics about domestic violence other than a male hitting a female or vice versa.”

Domestic violence awareness is significant to Mathis because she was a victim of domestic violence as well as her mother.

“My mother was in a nine-year domestic violence relationship and I went through my own domestic violence situation when I was 19-years-old,” said Mathis. “My situation was bad but it was not as bad as my mom’s.”
She added, “My mom is the reason I left my situation because I was like, I have to get out of this and I am not going to go through this for a long
period of time.”

The event will entail a diverse panel of speakers, domestic violence resources, poetry and art displays and a toast to the survivors and non-survivors of domestic violence.

“I have an author who will share how her partner abused her and her children, a woman who will teach how to use firearms and the proper steps to protect yourself, and I will share domestic violence resources,” said Mathis. “We will have poetry and art displays and I am going to allow people to share their domestic violence story.”

The effects of domestic violence can be long lasting or permanent and victims of domestic violence can suffer from serious mental health consequences.

“My mom’s situation caused me more trauma than anything,” said Mathis. “It really affected the dynamics of our household because it affected my mom’s mental health which meant that she could not be a mom and properly function for us.”

“I want to break the stigma of domestic violence, especially by being a mom of boys,” said Mathis.
“We have to teach our sons that there are other ways to channel anger and learn how to positively communicate our emotions.”

Mathis’ one wish is for more community leaders to read this article and be more in touch with the little people and join the cause for domestic violence.

The event is free and open to the public. Participants are asked to wear purple to the event.

The National Violence Domestic Hotline is (800) 799- 7233.

No one has a right to put their hands on you. Your last reprimand should have been when you were a child living in your parents’ house.

Please do not put your family in a situation where they have to plan your funeral. Take heed to this article and run for your life.

Welcome back to the wonderful world of Grimms’ Fairy Tales.

Watching the Republicans’ colorful method of choosing the Speaker of the House got me wondering if their method was just a simple circular firing squad or something darker, like cannibalism.

Always looking on the sunny side of life, I figured cannibalism was the better analogy. Who knows more about cannibalism than the Brothers Grimm with their rollicking medieval tales filled with gore, witches and evil stepmothers? Cannibalism was common during the Medieval period.

Sit back and return with us now to the thrilling days of Hansel and Gretel.

Once upon a time, on the edge of a dark forest there lived a poor woodcutter, his two children, and his wife, the proverbial wicked stepmother.

Things were tough all over. The woodcutting market was bad. Famine, like celery, stalked the land. The woodcutter’s family lived on the ragged edge of starvation.

Wicked Step Mom kept fussing at her husband that they would all starve to death if he kept trying to feed his kids. Her solution was to take Hansel and Gretel into the deep forest and leave them there to starve or be eaten by wild animals.
Dad did not want to do it but eventually gave in after days of endless nagging. Fortunately, the kids overheard the plan to dump them in the woods.

Hansel, a plucky lad, came up with a plan. The night before they were to be taken to the forest, Hansel sneaked out of the cottage to fill his pockets with little white stones.

He surreptitiously dropped the stones leaving a trail as they went into the forest. Hansel probably stole this idea from Greek mythology as Theseus left a string to find his way out of the labyrinth after killing the Minotaur.

In any event, the kids found their way out of the forest, showing up back home the next morning to the chagrin of Step Mom.
She pretended to be glad to see them but being a wicked Step Mom, she was faking it. She convinced their Dad to take them back into the woods.

She locked the cottage door so Hansel could not get out to gather stones to set the trail. Hansel switched to Plan B which involved leaving a trail of bread crumbs instead of rocks.

Alas, Plan B failed because birds ate all the bread crumbs Hansel dropped. They were stuck in the deep dark woods. After three days the kids were beyond hungry, borderline hangry.

Suddenly they spotted a white bird singing a cheery song. They followed the bird because what else were they going to do? Soon the bird led them to a beautiful cottage in a glade. The roof was made of cake, the windows were sugar, and its walls were made of bread.

The kids immediately started chowing down on the infrastructure. Yum.

A very old woman came out of the house and invited them inside saying: “Just come inside my little darlings, rest yourselves in my little box of treats. It’s as safe as houses!”

Pro tip: Anytime someone tells you something is safe without being asked; it ain’t safe.

The old woman was a witch. She fed them a hearty cholesterol and gluten heavy meal and tucked them into bed. The next morning, she grabbed Hansel locking him up in a cage in her She Shed.

She had been catching children, killing them, and eating them for many years. Hansel and Gretel were the next items on the menu.

Plot device: Witches are near sighted.

She wanted to fatten up Hansel by stuffing him with fried food like a hungry redneck at a Calabash seafood buffet. To determine if Hansel was fat enough, she made him stick his finger out the bars so she could see if he was a candidate for

Type 2 diabetes and the stew pot.

Hansel knew she had poor vision, so he stuck a chicken bone out for her to feel instead of his finger. He never seemed to gain weight for weeks.

Finally, she could wait no longer. She ordered Gretel to start a fire in the wood stove to cook Hansel.

She demanded Gretel climb into the oven to see if it was hot enough. Gretel pretended she did not understand, asking the witch to show her how. Like a Medieval Sylvia Plath, the witch stuck her head in the oven.

Gretel pushed her inside leading to the witch’s toasty death. Gretel freed Hansel from his cage. They scoured the cottage for jewels, liberating lots of loot.

They found a magic duck who gave them a ride across a wide lake and arrived back home with Dad. Wicked Step Mom had died while they were gone. Dad and the kids lived happily ever after on the witch’s jewels.

Moral: Never sleep in a house made of cake.

No actual stepmothers or witches were harmed while writing this column.

Without a doubt, news media is crucial for all cities and towns to keep them informed of local issues and, more importantly, keep a diligent eye on the goings-on in municipal governments. 

Anyone disappointed and skeptical of the effectiveness and competency of Fayetteville and Cumberland County elected officials, or are familiar with the recent corruption and fiscal mismanagement of the Town of Spring Lake, or has witnessed the chaos and grief that has resulted from the victimizing of the Hope Mills mayor and town officials by a small group of local discontents and social media trolls, can see the similarities.
What all three municipalities have in common is the absence of LOCAL media.

I cannot overstate the media's role in maintaining a fiscally healthy and well-managed city or town. This is why the news media is often called the Fourth Estate. (The three branches/estates of government: Executive, Legislative, and Judicial).

The Fourth Estate, news media, is the check and balance and informational conduit keeping citizens informed of what is happening in government. Through investigative reporting, local news media uncovers corruption, conflicts of interest, or misuse of power in municipal governments.

The effective use of news media is critical to preventing the abuse of authority. When elected officials are aware that we, the media, are scrutinizing their actions, they are more likely to be on their best behavior and make decisions that are in our best interests. Accountability helps prevent negligence or unethical behavior.
Up & Coming Weekly community newspaper works closely with the newly reformatted CityViewToday's daily electronic newsletter to inform Cumberland County residents in all nine municipalities of important news and information.

We applaud CVT for its commitment to bringing local news and issues to the forefront of the Fayetteville/Cumberland County community. Hiring former newspaper publisher Bill Horner III as CVT Executive Editor and, most recently, Fayetteville Observer's veteran reporter Paul Woolverton, is a massive step toward steering Fayetteville from becoming a "news media desert."

Talented and knowledgeable, these news media professionals bring industry expertise, integrity, and hard news reporting back to Fayetteville. More importantly, Woolverton retains local historical knowledge that's vital when making inquiries and contacts and connecting the dots on important community stories and events.

If you are still unclear on how important news media is to Cumberland County, consider media outlets like Up & Coming Weekly newspaper and CityViewToday newsletter's responsibilities to the community.

Together, we provide transparency and, whenever possible, serve as watchdogs, holding local city and county elected officials accountable for their actions.

We ensure transparency on essential decisions concerning projects, spending, and public funds allocation. A lack of accountability caused the criminal loss of hundreds of thousands of taxpayers' money and threatened the existence of the Town of Spring Lake.

Local news media encourages community involvement. It is vital to inform residents about important issues, meetings, and decisions that impact their daily lives. It enables and encourages citizens to participate in the democratic process.

One of the significant reasons voter turnout is so poor in Fayetteville and Hope Mills is that the voters are not informed or engaged. They do not know the issues or, more importantly, the candidates. Without this engagement, knowledge, and communication, the motivation to vote or participate in local government is nonexistent.

Additionally, and unfortunately, Fayetteville and Cumberland County have no local TV stations. In most communities nationwide, a local TV station and newspaper inform citizens about local issues, policies, initiatives, and events.

Without such means, disseminating crucial information to the public becomes virtually impossible. Without these local news outlets, residents lose their voice and cannot share their opinions, concerns, or suggestions regarding municipal matters.

Public input of this nature influences decision-makers and leads to more responsive governance.

Again, we welcome Bill Horner III to Fayetteville and Paul Woolverton back from the Dark Side (Just kidding, Paul!). The citizens of Fayetteville and all Cumberland County municipalities have our assurance that CityViewToday and Up & Coming Weekly community newspaper will continue to serve in the best interest of the citizens by being trusted media resources that bridge local governments with informed citizens, assuring transparency, accountability, and creating an engaged community.

The Fayetteville community deserves it.

Thank you for reading Up & Coming Weekly.

Health is wealth and the First Annual Integrative Health Fair aims to make that more achievable for the Fayetteville community. The fair will take place on Nov. 11, from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. at the Origins Naturopathic Health and Wellness located at 2529 Raeford Road.

“Integrative health aims for well-coordinated care among different providers and institutions by bringing conventional and complementary approaches together to care for the whole person,” Owner and Operator of Integrative MedSpace and Origins Naturopathic Health and Wellness, Kerry Dunn explained. “We aim to treat the whole person so that a person's health span matches as closely as possible with their life span.”

The health fair is the first of its kind and will be packed full of health and wellness experts, vendors and food trucks. Orange Theory, Fleet Feet, Pure Barre, Fit Lab, Drip Bar, Middleton Dentistry, Align Chiropractic, Planted Life Coaching, ZR Team Jiu-Jitsu and Radiant Reflections will round out the vendor list for the event. Vendors and providers who share the co-working space will also have tables available with giveaways during the fair. No fair would be complete without food, even a health fair. Household 6 will be providing a healthy meal for attendees and Vagabond Coffee will be in attendance. Children are also welcome at the event and will be able to enjoy an inflatable slide, face painting and a make-and-take granola bar with an informational session on sugar intake.

The fair will feature a raffle for baskets by co-op providers and gift cards amounting to more than $1000. All proceeds from the event will go to Falcon Children’s Home, tickets are $10 each. Because the fair will take place on Veterans Day, all Veteran attendees will be treated to free cryotherapy pain treatments. The first 50 attendees will receive a swag bag, that will include, promotional pricing and gift options that can be used in the upcoming Christmas season. 

Dunn feels the fair is important for the community.

 “The purpose of the Integrative Health Fair is to show our community how many allies they have that are focused on keeping them as healthy as possible. Fayetteville has a lot to offer in the health and wellness community, and as providers, we noticed that the majority of our patients thought they would have to travel out of town to find what they were looking for,” Dunn said. “ Our hope is to showcase local businesses and Health providers that are offering Integrative or preventative services to improve the health and well-being of our city.”

 Fair attendees will be able to ask providers questions and schedule future services. For health or wealth providers looking for a space, co-op space is currently available. Contact Kerry Dunn at info@integrativemed.space for more information on the event and co-op.

Cross Creek 01 (CC01) Fayetteville Fire Station #1 at 607 Person Street
Cross Creek 02 (G1A) Greater Works Deliverance Temple 315 S Plymouth Street
Cross Creek 03 (CC03) Alger B. Wilkins High School 1429 Skibo Road
Cross Creek 04 (CC04) Lion's Civic Center (upper level) 725 W Rowan Street
Cross Creek 06 (CC06) Margaret Willis Elementary School 1412 Belvedere Avenue
Cross Creek 07 (CC07) Snyder Memorial Baptist Church 701 Westmont Drive
Cross Creek 08 (CC08) Highland Presbyterian Church 111 Highland Avenue
Cross Creek 09 (G2A) Church of Christ 651 Country Club Drive
Cross Creek 10 (CC10) Fayetteville Fire Station #5 at 3040 Boone Trail Ext
Cross Creek 11 (G3B) Massey Hill Rec Center 1612 Camden Road
Cross Creek 12 (CC12) Vanstory Elementary School 400 Foxhall Road
Cross Creek 13 (CC13) Arthur D. Smith Rec Center 1520 Slater Avenue
Cross Creek 14 (CC14) Kiwanis Rec Center 352 Devers Street
Cross Creek 15 (CC15) Glendale Acres Elementary School 2915 Skycrest Drive
Cross Creek 16 (CC16) E. E. Smith High School 1800 Seabrook Road
Cross Creek 17 (CC17) Westarea Elementary School 941 Country Club Drive
Cross Creek 18 (CC18) R. Max Abbott Elementary School 590 Winding Creek Road
Cross Creek 20 (G4B) Bordeaux Branch Library 3711 Village Drive
Cross Creek 21 (CC21) Jesus Christ-Latter Day Sts Church 3200 Scotty Hill Road
Cross Creek 22 (CC22A) Reid Ross Classical High School 3200 Ramsey Street
Cross Creek 23-1 (G2C-1) North Regional Library 855 McArthur Road
Cross Creek 23-2 (CC23-2) Fayetteville Fire Station #19 at 3841 Walsh Pkwy
Cross Creek 24 (CC24) Campground United Methodist Church 4625 Campground Road
Cross Creek 25 (CC25) Jesus Christ-Latter Day Sts Church 6420 Morganton Road
Cross Creek 26 (CC26) Morganton Road Elem School 102 Bonanza Drive

Cross Creek 27 (CC27) Cliffdale Rec Center 6404 Cliffdale Road
Cross Creek 28-1 (G5B-1) John D. Fuller Sr. Recreational Complex 6667 Old Bunce Road
Cross Creek 28-2 (G5B-2) Fayetteville Fire Station #8 at 1116 Seventy First School Road
Cross Creek 29 (CC29) Anne Chesnutt Middle School 2121 Skibo Road
Cross Creek 30 (G4A) Ireland Drive Middle School 1606 Ireland Drive
Cross Creek 31 (CC31) Fayetteville Fire Station #12 at 911 Hope Mills Road
Cross Creek 32 (CC32) Westover Rec Center 267 Bonanza Drive
Cross Creek 33 (CC33) Fayetteville Fire Station #9 at 5091 Santa Fe Drive
Cross Creek 34 (CC34) Church of the Open Door 4445 Cliffdale Road
Cross Creek 519 (CC519) VFW Post 6018 116 Chance Street
Alderman (AL51) John Dove "J.D." Pone Rec Center 2964 School Road
Arran Hills (AH49) Fayetteville Fire Station #17 at 6701 Bailey Lake Road
Auman 01 (G5A-1) Church Of The Nazarene 1844 Rayconda Pl
Auman 02 (G5A-2) West Regional Library 7469 Century Cir
Beaver Dam (G6B) Beaver Dam Fire Station 26 11042 NC Hwy 210 S
Black River (G7A) Godwin Town Hall 7827 Royal Street
Brentwood (G5C) Arran Lake Baptist Church 1130 Bingham Dr
Cedar Creek (G6C) Cedar Creek Fire Station 4960 Tabor Church Rd
Cliffdale West 01 (CL57-1) Bill Hefner Elementary School 7059 Calamar Drive
Cliffdale West 02 (CL57-2) Lake Rim Rec Center 1455 Hoke Loop Road
Cumberland 01A (G8B) E. Melvin Honeycutt Elem School 4655 Lakewood Dr
Cumberland 02 (CU02) Sherwood Park Elem School 2115 Hope Mills Road
Cumberland 03 (G8C) Cumberland Mills Elem School 2576 Hope Mills Road
Cumberland 04 (G8A) John Griffin Middle School 5551 Fisher Road
Eastover 01 (EO01) Lebanon Baptist Church 3329 Beard Road

Eastover 02 (EO02) Eastover-Central Rec Center 3637 Pembroke Lane
Hope Mills 01A (G8D) Hope Mills Rec Center 5766 Rockfish Road
Hope Mills 02A (G9B-1) Cotton Fire Department 4618 Calico Street
Hope Mills 02B (G9B-2) Gallberry Farm Elementary School 8019 Byerly Drive
Hope Mills 03 (G9A) Hope Mills Middle School 4975 Cameron Road
Hope Mills 04 (G10B) C Wayne Collier Elementary School 3522 Sturbridge Drive
Judson Vander (G1B) Vander Fire Department 3509 Clinton Road
Lake Rim (LR63) Bill Crisp Senior Center 7560 Raeford Road
Linden (LI65) Linden Community Center 9447 Market Street
Long Hill (LO66A) Cedar Falls Baptist Church 6181 Ramsey Street
Manchester (G11B) William T. Brown Elementary School 2522 Andrews Church Road
Montibello (MB62) EE Miller Recr Center 1347 Rim Road
Morganton Rd 02 (MR02) Benjamin Martin Elementary School 430 N Reilly Road
Pearces Mill 02A (G3A-1) Pearces Mill Fire Dept 168 Dedication Drive
Pearces Mill 02B (G3A-2) Breezewood Church 3337 Legion Road
Pearces Mill 03 (G3C) Crown Arena 2405 Gillespie Street
Pearces Mill 04 (G4C) Faymont Baptist Church 3663 Cumberland Road
Sherwood (SH77) Gray's Creek Fire Station # 24 at 2661 Sand Hill Road
Spring Lake 03 (SL78-3) Spring Lake Multipurpose Comm Center 245 Ruth Street
Stedman (G6A) Stedman Community Building 335 First Street
Stoney Point 01 (G10C) Stoney Point Rec Center 7411 Rockfish Road
Stoney Point 02 (G10A) Lighthouse Baptist Church 5991 Rockfish Road
Wade (G7B) Wade Volunteer Fire Department 7130 Powell Street
Westarea 01 (G2E-1) College Lakes Rec Center 4945 Rosehill Road
Westarea 02 (G2E-2) Warrenwood Elementary School 4618 Rosehill Road

The future begins now. With the upcoming elections for local government right around the corner, now is the perfect time to start catching up on who you're voting for and why.
After the candidate forum held by the Greater Fayetteville Chamber last week, Up & Coming Weekly was able to reach some of the candidates running to clarify their statements and dive deeper into their platforms and core issues that need addressing in the community.

The candidates were asked various questions about issues such as the local unhoused population, local mental health care services, the crime seeping out of Ft. Liberty, and their plans for alleviating and addressing these issues at the city government level.

Mayor

For the mayoral race, we reached out to Mitch Colvin, current mayor, and Freddie De La Cruz for their mindset and plans around the need for more affordable mental health services, the crime in Fayetteville and efforts going forward to improve the city as a whole.

Mitch Colvin

Concerning plans for developing new avenues for mental health services, incumbent Mayor Mitch Colvin had this to say, "It's not naturally a space we're a good fit for, but we have a responsibility nonetheless. For one, putting real funding behind continuing care."

Colvin speaks briefly on the city government's role in the process of lobbying for more funding from the county government.
"There's room for the city in the lines of creating these connections between organizations
and businesses."

Freddie De La Cruz
When asked about his plans for developing infrastructure to combat the unhoused problem, De La Cruz had this to say.

"That's a county lane. Health and education are county issues. But here's what I would do. Number one, we need to leverage our assets and resources. We have to help the county with that problem; however, we can do that either through 501 c programs, clinics, shelters, places that already do this work.

"We need to figure out how to connect those people and the county with these organizations and help them work together. Not just healthcare workers. We need to get the pastors and ministers involved too."
With his lengthy military background, De La Cruz was also asked about the issue of crimes committed by soldiers off-post.

"Soldiers are soldiers; you have good ones and bad ones. What we need to look at when comparing the military sexual assaults and crime to how it transitions to the city, which is part of the county, the military has higher standards.

"We have sexual assault organizations and the chain of command. Everyone's involved in the process to make sure we prosecute sex offenders in the military. The same incident that happens in the city limits doesn't have the same stringency on the civilian sector in the city. We have so much crime in the city, the gun violence; the crimes we're talking about [sexual violence crimes] are getting lower," responded De La Cruz.

Regarding the quality of police officers in the city, De La Cruz had this to say.

"What I would do when it comes to reducing those crimes, I'd increase police activity. More patrols, more stops. The city is hiring anyone who has credentials because it's all about numbers and getting them out on patrols.

"The way I think we need to approach this problem is hiring quality police officers that actually know what is right and interacting with their community and showing their presence where the people are to help reduce the crime and enforcing the law when it's needed. We need to increase the police pay and benefits." De La Cruz continued, "The reason we need to do that is because by doing so you're going to be able to hire a quality police force. Instead of 58 police officers, we're going to have people lining up to be a police officer."

"How are you going to pay for it? We've got a hundred personnel shortage in emergency services. We're already operating with that shortage. My idea is to cut that number in half.
"We use the money saved and reallocate it to paying for those pay increases and benefits. Once that entices people, that will give us the chance to pick between quality candidates that allow us to enforce those higher standards," he said.

District One

Next, U&CW spoke to the candidates for the District One seat, incumbent Kathy Jensen and her opponent Alex Rodriguez.
They were asked questions concerning the process of improving mental health services, crime in Fayetteville and their plans for improving those already existing avenues in the future.

Kathy Jensen

When asked about the mental health crises Fayetteville is currently facing, Jensen brought up the Office for Community Safety, a fledgling organization aimed at developing the understanding and necessary solutions to the mental health crises we are facing in the city. She talked about not only supporting it but lauding its efforts and results so far.

"We have already started the process for improvement. It's going to take more resources from the city, the county, the hospitals, the non-profit organizations, and really all of us to sit down and work towards that improvement. We need to come together as a whole community to move ahead towards our goals," said Jensen.
Jensen was also asked about her stance on the city council and its efficacy in future endeavors.
"Storming, forming, norming. We start out adjusting to the changes. Then, once we've found our footing, we can begin organizing. Finally, we can start working together as a whole. We have a young council.
"We've only been together 14 months, and we lost 6 of those months due to the census. It just takes time. I see this council coming together, and we can begin to really do a lot of great things when we do."

Jose Alejandro "Alex" Rodriguez
When asked about the issue of soldiers committing crimes off base and its relation to the rising crime rate across military installations, Rodriguez had this to say.
"I would treat them like any other scumbag. We'll put them on the news and send the message that their actions will be held accountable. They need to understand that that kind of behavior won't be tolerated in our city."
In response, Rodriguez was asked about the rising rate of sexual assaults taking place across military installations and how he would combat that with his experience from his military career.
"Let me go old school on you. You have to separate the sexes. If you want to stop the sexual assaults, you have to separate the sexes."
Concerning his stance on crime in general, Rodriguez was also asked what his actions would be to handle the crime in Fayetteville as well.
"We need more police traffic stops. We need more stops to search for guns, drugs, and outstanding warrants. We need more DUI checkpoints to get those people off the streets."

District Two

Next, we spoke to the candidate running for the District Two seat, Malik Davis.
Incumbent Shakeyla Ingram was unable to be reached for comment, so only Malik Davis's responses will be shown below.

Malik Davis
When asked about the current issues with the local unhoused population, Davis had this to say.
"We can set them up with job trainers to help them get job skills, life skills and mental health care. If we don't help with their minds and problems, we can't help them change," he said.
Continuing, Davis then spoke about his ideas regarding new avenues of education for the youth.
"I want to help them with their goals. Providing lessons and courses for life skills, financial literacy and job training. Not everyone gets to go to college, but those people still want to help their communities and feel like they have an impact."
Finally, Davis was asked to comment on the importance of voting for his generation as well as those to come.
"When we vote, our vote matters. As a millennial I'd like to let them know things happen. They might not happen to us, but if we don't vote, the same things that been happening will continue to happen. Step up to the plate. Step up and be the change you want to see in society."

District Five

Finally, we spoke to two of the candidates for District Five, the incumbent, Johnny Dawkins, and Lynne Greene. Both were asked questions about their goals concerning the future of mental health infrastructure in Fayetteville and their plans to improve them moving forward.

Johnny Dawkins
When asked about improving mental health services, Dawkins had this to say.
"The North Carolina State Constitution clearly states that the counties, not municipalities, have jurisdiction over this issue. However, we are also working on a new homeless shelter. The Day Resource Center has also been so successful that people are coming to our town because of how good it is. Mental Health Services are crucial for our society," he said.
"Mental health services, especially for our young people, are crucial. Speaking with garrison commander Colonel Wilcox on Fort Liberty, I pleaded with him to convince the army to set aside some funding for improving mental health services for our veterans and soldiers," remarked Dawkins about what place the military had in this developing situation.

Lynne Greene
When questioned about her plans to improve the mental health services already available in our community, Greene had this to say.
"I just don't have enough background to answer that, but I do know the next initiative and phases must include the county. We can't expect to correct the issues overnight. We've got to work together, the city and the county," she said.
In response, Greene was asked how she would improve her understanding of the current issues and what her plan of action would be.
"I really want to have more one on one conversations with those affected. Even more small group or community meetings. The lines of communication have to start with the community and the police. I can't pretend to know what their struggles are, but I want to hear them voice it to me. I don't want to assume. I want to learn what the real bottom line struggle is," said Greene.

Early voting
One-stop early voting for the Nov. 7 Municipal Elections in Cumberland County's municipal elections is now open. Voters will be required to show a photo identification to vote in this election.
Citizens who do not have a photo ID can get a free photo ID at the Cumberland County Board of Elections Office at 227 Fountainhead Lane in Fayetteville.
One-stop early voting will be open until Nov. 4 at the following locations:
• Cumberland County Board of Elections at E. Newton Smith Center, 227 Fountainhead Lane in Fayetteville, from Monday to Friday, 8 a.m. to 5 p.m.

• Cliffdale Recreation Center at 6404 Cliffdale Rd, in Fayetteville, from Monday to Friday, noon to 7 p.m.

Both locations will also be open on the last day of one-stop voting on Saturday, Nov. 4, from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m.
Photo ID required
Voters will be asked to show photo ID when voting in North Carolina, beginning with the 2023 municipal elections.
Most voters will simply show their driver’s license, but there are other acceptable photo IDs.
For more information regarding voter information, visit https://www.cumberlandcountync.gov/departments/election-group/elections/voters/voter-guide, or call 910-678-7733
For a full list of polling locations around Cumberland County, please see the back of this issue of Up and Coming Weekly. Election Day is Nov. 7.

Fayetteville-Cumberland Parks and Recreation offers a variety of locations around town to enjoy the outdoors and learn about local flora, fauna and wildlife.

In addition to park facilities, there are a number of activities scheduled for November. Below are just a few, so be sure to check https://www.fcpr.us/facilities/recreation-centers for more information.

Mazarick Park, 910-433-1579)

Nov 2: Fall Mosaic

While discussing the changing of the season, collect different items from the trail to create a fall nature mosaic.

All ages; Thurs.; 10-11:30 am; Free

Lake Rim Park, 910-433-1018

Fishing Tackle Loaner Program

Try your hand at fishing without buying the equipment. This program allows you to borrow a rod and reel for 24 hours and provides a great opportunity for the whole family to get outside. A driver’s license or ID is required to register. Participants must follow state fishing license requirements.

All ages; Mon.-Fri.; 8 am-5 pm; Free

Park Ranger Chats

This lecture series will focus on a new topic each month. Program is held at the Bill Crisp Senior Center. Call Lake Rim Park or the Bill Crisp Senior Center to register. Nov. 1: Mystery of the Sand Mound People.Native people inhabited the region thousands of years before the first European explorers.  Arrowheads, pottery, and their characteristic burial mounds remain as clues to understanding Fayetteville’s earlier people.  Learn about the lives of this little-known group and about possible links with living descendants.

55+; Wed.; 1:30-2:30; Free

Youth Archery Clinic 

This is an introductory class for younger archers. Smaller bows and a shorter class time will help beginning archers learn the basics of safety, equipment care, and proper form. Parent or guardian must stay and supervise. Call or register online, space is limited.

5-7 yrs; Sat., Nov. 4; noon-2 pm; $5

Stained “Glass” Leaf Art

Bring your old crayons to this fun class where we will crunch them up and melt them into art. Learn some common tree species from around the park and collect their colorful leaves to form the centerpiece of your creation. Then you will be ready to decorate your winter windows.

All ages; Thurs., Nov. 9; 3:45-4:45 pm; Free

Thanksgiving Animal Hunt

“Stuffed” animals will be on hand to teach about the different native animals and traditional foods associated with Thanksgiving. Practice your hunting skills on a scavenger hunt to find some of these animals hiding in the woods. Call or register online.

All ages; Thurs., Nov. 16; 4-5 pm; Free

Clark Park, 910-433-1579

Animal Feedings!

Alligators chomping, snakes swallowing, and turtles snapping, come see what is for dinner at the nature center.

All ages; Wed.: 4 pm and Sat.: 2 pm; Free

Nature Story Time

You and your child are invited to Clark Park for an interactive story time with the Cumberland County Public Library. The story will be followed by themed crafts and activities. Call or register online.

6-under yrs. w/adult; Tues., Nov. 14: Bears; 1-2 pm; Free

Big Tree Bike Ride

Bring your bike to travel along the Cape Fear River Trail in search of the biggest trees. Learn how to use a Biltmore stick to determine the height and width of trees along the trail. Call or register online.

8+ yrs.; Tues., Nov. 7; 10 am-noon; Free

Native American Culture

Native Americans had inhabited North Carolina for thousands of years before the first European explorers arrived and changed their world forever. Learn how the original people of North Carolina lived before contact. Through demonstrations and artifacts, you will learn what people in this region ate, what they wore, and the tools they made to help them survive. Call or register online.

8+; Tue., Nov. 7; 3:30-5 pm; Free                                                                                                                                                   

Turkey Shoot Archery

This is the basic archery class with a holiday theme. Learn safety, proper stance, and correct technique then practice on turkey shaped targets and play holiday themed games. Call or register online, space is limited.

8+ yrs.; Wed., Nov. 22; 9 am-noon; $5

Many business owners may think that the tough part is over once they make the call to sell their business. While there’s no doubt that decision can be hard, there is still work to be done. Owners must adapt their business environment to continue running without them. Working with an experienced business advisor can make all the difference as a company shifts towards new leadership.
Thinking Of Stepping Away?
Most owners feel like no one knows the company like they do. After all, you’ve put your blood, sweat and tears into growing this business. When the day does come that you need to step away, you can start by asking these questions:
•Are you the primary reason for your company’s ongoing growth?
•Have you built a management team that understands your company inside and out?
•Are the processes that make your business tick documented, or do they reside solely in your head?
•Have your books and financials been kept in order?
How you answer these will depend on how difficult it will be to reduce the organization’s dependence on you. A trusted business advisor can help you loosen the reins to help the team function without you and ensure that your business is attractive to a buyer, ensuring your exit is financially beneficial.
Reducing Dependence on You
Concerned that you are too deeply enmeshed in the day-to-day activities of your company to successfully walk away? An excellent place to start reducing dependence on you to run the show is to document processes and delegating responsibilities. From there, here are some steps you can take to start to wean yourself away before you sell:
Build a strong management team. Do you have leaders you trust to keep things running smoothly if you aren’t around? If not, start taking steps to ensure your management team knows the processes behind your business, from handling the books and payroll to ordering supplies to dealing with employee issues.
Boost the confidence/capability of your team. Maybe your team is strong already, but have you made them feel empowered and capable? If you haven’t shared with your employees and staff that you trust in their abilities, there’s no time like the present.
Spend less time in the office. Once you have a strong, confident team, you need to start stepping away from the day-to-day business activities. This allows the business’ other leaders to test drive how well they do when you are no longer the boss.
Prove To Buyers the Business Works Without You
No doubt, this is a painful reality, but to ensure your business sells for the best possible price and terms, you must prove to a new buyer that the company can operate without you. It may be hard to step away, but if you have done your job right, the company will have the tools to succeed.
Here are some actions to take:
•Delegate responsibilities to trusted employees
•Develop a succession plan
•Detail your company’s processes and procedures
•Implement any necessary new technology
A final note about technology. Today’s world is digital. If you haven’t already brought your business out of the analog realm, that should be top of your to-do list before selling. Start by updating your POS system, digitizing all your processes and moving your operations online or to a cloud-based system.

Editor's note: Ashley Kelsey is with Transworld Business Advisors of Eastern NC. She can be reached at 910-302-6447 or akelsey@tworld.com.

“In a world full of doing, doing, doing, it is important to take a moment just to breathe, and just be.” -Author unknown.
Mindfulness activities address suffering and vulnerability. It is the awakening to our best and shadow self. Mental wellness is being in the present moment.
The Prima Elements Holistic Wellness Center’s meditation and mindfulness classes addresses wellness practices within our lives. The Mindfulness and Self Worth Meditation is on Wednesday, Nov. 8, at 124 Anderson Street. The class will be held from 6:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m.
“Prima Elements is committed to providing our community with essentials for optimal living. Our wellness center offers holistic health services. Our wellness services offer caring, expert, clinicians and staff that provide natural remedies, massages, and detoxifying natural cleanses. Prima Elements hosts wellness services such as Yoga, Meditation, Reiki and RestStation Therapy,” said Audriaunna Burgos. “[The center] has been in existence since 2012. Hilda Burgos, Fayetteville resident, nurse and retired IT consultant at Fort Liberty, is one of the founders. Adrian Burgos and myself are responsible for the operational aspects of the Prime Elements Holistic Wellness Center.”
Tyreena G is a vital team member to Prima Elements. She is an herbalist, teacher, plant vegan chef and meal planner, and creator of customized teas for the Wellness Center. She calls her customized teas Tyreena G Tea Brand. Flavors included are Thee Jazzy Beet, The Respiratory Blend, The Rooted Blend and Blue Lotus &Butterfly Pea.
“My passion is fulfilled at the Prima Elements Holistic Wellness Center by the development of personal relationships, opportunities for creative expression, researching new options and focus for health and wellness education,” Tyreena G. said. “Herbalism is a family tradition for me, my family is originally from Jamaica. My family members developed and utilized herbs and plants to heal and maintain good health. My Jamaican roots are an influence upon by cooking style. The guidelines are plant-based vegan, simple preparation and ingredients and nutrients from the fruits and vegetables of the earth. Did you know strawberry leaves are excellent for Tea?”
Do you desire to sleep soundly, energize naturally, and silence the inner critic? Have you experienced stress and anxiety? Do you want to feel calmer and experience peace? Experience the Mindfulness and Self -Worth Meditation at Prima Elements Holistic Wellness Center, 124 Anderson Street. The meditation session is from 6:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. Members are free, admission is ten dollars per person for non-members.
Contact 910-483-8406 or text 910-456-6533 for more information.

Gladys Knight’s musical influence has been embedded in the DNA of many genres of music for generations. Just after 11 years, The Empress of Soul will be making her return to Fayetteville with the 88th Season of Community Concert Series on Nov. 10 at the Crown Complex.
Her discography and list of accomplishments is nothing short of amazing. Her most recent honorary award was given in 2022 by President Joe Biden in Washington D.C. The award is called The Kennedy Center Honors, an annual award given to those in the performing arts field for their lifetime accomplishments.
The legendary vocalist, singer, songwriter and actress has been able to hold her value and super star status since the 1950’s. Rolling Stone magazine placed her in their Greatest Singers of All-Time list, another highlight to her already impressive career. On her interview with Sway in the Morning back in 2015, she credits her longevity with her ability to adjust with the times and appreciating music from different genres at a young age.
Gladys Knight has also been able to take her talents to the big screen on several occasions, besides her early vocal performances, she made her debut on “The Muppet Show” in 1981 as a guest. Since then she’s appeared on shows such as “Charlie & Co.”, “The Jamie Foxx Show,” “The First Family,” and many more. She even made an appearance on “Dancing with the Stars” in 2012.
She’s won seven Grammy awards but has been nominated for 22 over the course of her career, both solo and with the Pips, landing her in the Grammy Hall of Fame for her musical significance and value. Her success as a vocalist and songwriter with the Pips has also placed her in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, and the Vocal Group Hall of Fame.
Gladys Knight was born in Atlanta, Georgia on May 28, 1944. She’s been singing for 75 years with her journey beginning at the age of four.
With the support and nurturing of her parents, she crafted her vocal abilities early with singing in the choir and talent shows around the city of Atlanta. After winning a TV show contest on “Ted Mack’s Amateur Hour,” her mother Elizabeth Knight urged her and her relatives to form the group Gladys Knight and the Pips, and shortly after they were on their way to stardom.
Gladys Knight & the Pips were a family music group that made hits in rhythm and blues, soul, funk and pop from the 1950’s through the 1980’s. The group originally consisted of Gladys Knight, her brother Merald Knight, sister Brenda Knight and cousins Eleanor and William Guest. They started off as just the Pips, named after their cousin James “Pip” Woods. After a rocky start in the late 50’s, trying to get a big single off Brunswick Records, Brenda Knight and Eleanor Guest left the group. During these times, the group was still getting recognition while performing for big R&B acts like Jackie Wilson and Sam Cooke.
The group re-united shortly after and recruited their cousin Edward Patten and family friend Langston George to form Gladys Knight and the Pips. The illustrious group stayed active, on and off, from 1960 to 1987. They made their mark on legendary record labels like Motown records, Buddah Records, Columbia Records, and MCA Records until Gladys decided to pursue a solo career.
They had early hits like “Every Beat of My Heart,” “Heard it through the Grapevine” that was later sung by Marvin Gaye, and “Midnight Train to Georgia.” As a group they had a total of 22 singles reach the Top 20 Billboard charts, with several reaching number one. They also released over 20 albums as a group, winning three Grammy’s together and 7 American Music Awards.
As Gladys Knight pursued her solo career towards the late 80’s she began her journey on the biggest stages possible and has done some of the most Iconic performances around the world. She performed at the opening ceremony for the 2002 Winter Olympics in Salt Lake City and sang the National Anthem for the Superbowl in 2019 with many other incredible performances in between.
To still be a master of her craft and grace stages around the country at almost 80 years old is a remarkable accomplishment. After a stop here in Fayetteville, she’ll be on tour in the States until late February of 2024. Beginning in June, she’ll be making her way to The Netherlands and the United Kingdom for show dates during the months of June and July of 2024.
To learn more about the incredible life of Gladys Knight and to keep up with her tour dates, visit Gladysknight.com. To catch her live in Fayetteville for the Community Concert Series, tickets are on sale for the Friday, Nov. 10 show at ticketmaster.com. Don’t miss a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to see this legendary performer give a show of a lifetime.

James Olsen can still recall the first time he saw The Beach Boys perform as a teenager in the 1980s in Michigan.
Now, all those years later, he’s ready to sing along with “Wouldn’t It Be Nice,” “California Girls” and so many more of the memorable hits.
This time, however, he doesn’t have to go too far to see the legendary act since The Beach Boys are making a stop at the Crown Theatre in Fayetteville.
“I love just the simplicity of it. Most of them are three-chord progression songs and upbeat. They are just fun,” Olsen said. “It’s hard to get songs that people like and they just have dozens and dozens.”
Olsen just recently downloaded The Beach Boys 50 greatest hits when the very next day he heard about the fact that the band was coming to Fayetteville.
“I thought, ‘You gotta be kidding me. What are the chances?’” he said. “I took that as a sign to revisit The Beach Boys in person after 36 years.”
The band is scheduled to appear in just a little over a week at the Crown Theatre on Nov. 9. The show starts at 7:30 p.m. and should last about two hours.
Of course at the Crown Theatre concessions will be open for those seeing the show and will include tropical drink specials as an homage to The Beach Boys.
“I’ve definitely heard some buzz about this show out in the community,” Madeleine Eversole, the Director of Marketing for the Crown Complex, said. “Anyone who’s enjoyed hearing these songs over the years should take the opportunity to come see the band perform live.”
Eversole and other members of the Crown Complex have been getting a lot of good feedback, she says, from playing the band’s music at local events trying to drum up some publicity for the upcoming show.
“People love these shows,” she said.
While not all the original members of The Beach Boys still tour and travel, the show will include original member Mike Love as well as Bruce Johnson. Eversole expects a good turn out with more than 70% of the seats already sold for the upcoming show. Tickets start at $31.
“The Beach Boys have so many hits and it’s going to be so much fun to see them perform live!” Eversole said.
For Olsen, he says he hopes they still sound like The Beach Boys after all these years.
“I have been on a kick of seeing bands over again this year,” Olsen said. “The year of 2023 has been it.”
The Crown will also host upcoming shows for Gladys Knight, Josh Turner, Air Supply, Leanne Morgan and John Mellencamp.
For more information about this or any upcoming shows visit www.crowncomplexnc.com.

In a heartfelt tribute to the men and women who have served in the armed forces, the First Presbyterian Church is set to host the Salute to our Veterans — A Variety Show Concert on Nov. 9 at 7 p.m. The event is sponsored by Fayetteville's American Guild of Organists, AGO, — Sandhills Chapter. This event is free and open to the public.
As the show approaches, the First Presbyterian Church and the AGO extend a warm invitation to the entire community. They hope this event is an opportunity to come together and pay tribute to the heroes in the community. The evening will be a powerful reminder of the sacrifices made by veterans and a celebration of their unwavering dedication to the nation.
This unique variety show concert is dedicated to honoring both active and retired military personnel and promises an evening filled with patriotic melodies, performances and tributes. The Director of Music for First Presbyterian, Marcia Mervin, shared her enthusiasm and vision for the event, emphasizing the significance of paying homage to our nation's veterans.
"The heart and soul of the concert lie in the performances by local musicians, who will enchant the audience with renditions of patriotic classics such as 'TAPS,' 'America the Beautiful' and 'The Folded Flag.' These melodies, often associated with moments of reflection and reverence, will serve as a poignant backdrop to the evening," Mervin said.
In addition to these musical renditions, the event boasts a Men's Quartet and an array of talent ready to take the stage. A key highlight of the evening will be the recognition of military personnel in attendance, who are strongly encouraged to wear their uniforms with pride. As a symbol of unity and solidarity, the song "Armed Forces the Pride of America" will be played with a unique twist. When the musical rendition and lyrics of their respective branch of service are heard, each member will rise in a display of their dedication to protecting our nation.
The concert's program continues beyond music alone. Mervin has ensured a diverse range of talent will be on display.
"Attendees can look forward to skits, poetry readings, handbell performances and stirring musical solos. The evening will, at times, resemble a community sing-along, fostering a sense of unity and camaraderie as voices join together in honor of our veterans," she said.
The program will include the presentation of the colors and the folding of the American flag. These solemn rituals hold a special place in the hearts of veterans and their families, serving as a reminder of the sacrifices made for the freedom and safety of the nation.
The talent on display, coupled with the musical renditions, will make this event a memorable experience. Veterans and their families, active military personnel and the entire Fayetteville community are encouraged to attend and participate in this celebration of our nation's heroes.
The Salute to Our Veterans — A Variety Show Concert is intended to serve as a testament to the enduring spirit of unity and gratitude. Organizers feel it is an opportunity for Fayetteville to come together as a community and thank those who have protected and defended our nation, past and present.
First Presbyterian Church, located at 102 Ann St., was founded in 1800, and is a historic landmark in downtown Fayetteville. Over the years, it has maintained a dedicated and growing congregation that actively engages in missions and supports the local military community.
To learn more about the First Presbyterian Church and its mission, please visit their website at http://www.firstprez.com.

It was a reunion between two warriors — from two generations — from two continents. Royal Dutch Air Force Lt. Col. Tim Ruijling recently came to visit Lt. Gen. Christopher Donahue and see for himself the Sunset March patterned after his own in Nijmegen that honors the sacrifice of 48 paratroopers from the 82nd Airborne Division.

It has been nearly 80 years since that fateful day of September 20, 1944 when our U.S. Army tried to hold off a Nazi invasion of the little Dutch town, the oldest in the Netherlands. It was a fierce gun battle on the Waal River at the Oversteek Bridge.

When the bridge was rebuilt in October 2013, it became the focal point for a tribute to those 48.

Lt. Col. Ruijling is one of the original founders of the Sunset March established in 2014 for which a veteran, alone or with others, walks the bridge as 48 pairs of lights come on in sequence over 12 minutes.

In prior interviews, Ruijling has said: “They gave their lives to give us the way of life we have now. We have our freedom because of those 48 young men.”
“There are still nights where you walk alone, and that’s very special... but it's also special that people from all over the world want to walk with you.”

Here at Fort Liberty, Donahue, the commanding general of the 18th Airborne Corps, wants to recreate similar sentiment for our veterans, past and present.

The half-mile pavement on the old Bragg Boulevard features more than 30 markers highlighting the history of the Fort Bragg many of us have experienced.

The Sunset Liberty March blends the legacy of Bragg with the future of Fort Liberty.

Since the Sunset Liberty March launch on June 1, many of us have “walked the walk” at sunset.

According to Donahue, sign-ups extend out to 2025. In Nijmegen, by Nov. 1, 2023, there will have been 3,300 consistent “walks” since it began Oct. 19, 2014. For the tenth anniversary, Ruijling has been invited to return to Fort Liberty for a joint memorial.

On this recent visit, Ruijling shared the emotions he feels when he walks that bridge: his respect for those 48 soldiers and the leadership they demonstrated. For his efforts, the Dutch government has knighted him, such that he is now Sir Tim Ruijling, Lt. Col. of the Royal Dutch Air Force.

To participate and be part of the legacy to-be-written about Fort Liberty, reserve your date for your Sunset Liberty March at www.sunsetlibertymarch.com. March in honor of a veteran relative, a veteran neighbor, a veteran co-worker, yourself. Registrants will receive confirmation and the pre-sunset time to arrive. An officer will meet you at the Sunset Liberty March pillars on Honeycutt Road.

Anyone can participate in the daily march, but one person is designated as the Liberty Marcher — who must be a current service member, veteran or Gold Star family member.

Only the Liberty Marcher must pre-register. Community groups are encouraged to participate. Non-DoD ID card holders can visit the All American Visitor Center to obtain a pass. Hours are 5 a.m. to 12 a.m. Vistors can also apply online for a visitor pass by visiting https://home.army.mil/liberty/ for more information.

Seven teams of combat weather Airmen competed in Thunder Challenge 2023 at Fort Liberty Oct. 15-17.

In the latest Civitas Poll, 49% of North Carolinians likely to vote in the Republican primary say they’d pick Lt. Gov. Mark Robinson to be the GOP nominee for governor in 2024. Of the remaining voters, 41% are undecided and the rest support other candidates such as State Treasurer Dale Folwell or former congressman Mark Walker.

So, is Robinson the inevitable nominee? That’s been the conventional wisdom.

Keep in mind that the threshold to win a primary outright, without a runoff, is only 30%. Robinson is already well above that, uh, mark.

Most North Carolina Democrats agree with that conventional wisdom — and find it delightful. They have a thick binder of opposition research on Mark Robinson. They’re looking forward to playing up his checkered financial past, unimpressive tenure as lieutenant governor, and history of outrageous comments.

Given the recent terrorist attacks on Israeli civilians by Hamas thugs, in particular, Robinson’s past use of antisemitic tropes in social-media posts will appear not just in attack ads but in appeals to out-of-state donors. Democrats think the resulting river of campaign cash will wash away not just Robinson but other Republican candidates down the ballot in 2024.

The lieutenant governor and his political team are clearly worried about this. That’s why Robinson called a press conference a couple of weeks ago, while Gov. Roy Cooper was in Japan on a trade mission. As “acting governor,” Robinson proclaimed “North Carolina’s Solidarity with Israel Week” and argued that his prior complaints about the financial and cultural power of Jews had been misinterpreted.

“There have been some Facebook posts that were poorly worded on my part,” he allowed, even as he insisted that “there is no antisemitism standing here in front of you.”
With the gubernatorial primary still five months away, Republican politicians, consultants, donors, and activists are not of one mind about how to respond to the Robinson problem (which virtually everyone acknowledges, at least in private). Based on numerous conversations, I’ve concluded there are three schools of thought.

Call the first the Accommodationists. They agree with Democrats that Robinson is inevitable but disagree that he’s destined to lose. They observe, correctly, that the 2024 election cycle will be dominated by the presidential contest. President Biden is unpopular. If he loses, they reason, the Democratic nominee for governor (presumably Attorney General Josh Stein) will likely go down with him. On the other hand, if Donald Trump is nominated and goes down in felonious flames, it won’t matter whether Robinson is the nominee. Stein will win, anyway. 

Given this scenario, why not endorse Robinson, help his campaign, and hope for the best? If he wins, they’ll be in a position to help staff and advise his administration. And if he loses, no one will blame them.

The second camp, the Challengers, refuse to accept Robinson as inevitable. They observe, correctly, that Republican primary voters actually know very little about the lieutenant governor. The latest entrant to the GOP field, attorney Bill Graham, has pledged to spend at least $5 million on ads in the coming weeks. Much of that will, presumably, be used to warn voters about Robinson’s many political vulnerabilities.

A Republican Party led by Mark Robinson, they reason, is a party that can neither win close races nor govern a closely divided state with credibility and prudence.

The third camp, the Hedgers, include many Republican leaders in the General Assembly. They don’t relish being on a ballot with Robinson, though they’re not sure this can be avoided. On the other hand, if he happens to win, they doubt he’d be an effective governor. They observe, correctly, that the legislation they just passed to strip the governor of appointments to such panels as the State Board of Elections and the Board of Transportation would apply equally to a Governor Josh Stein or a Governor Mark Robinson.

By strengthening legislative supremacy, which was already their default position, they’ve made the gubernatorial election less consequential.

It would be laughable if it were not so terrifying.
The United States House of Representatives’ inability to elect a Speaker has focused not only the eyes of our country but also those of the entire world on a democratically elected body in danger of self-destruction.
A small minority of extreme House members with single-issue concerns shut the closely divided House down with its toddler-temper-tantrum behavior.
The rest of the members, all Democrats and some moderate Republicans, became the grown-ups in the room, albeit very frustrated ones.
The House show has been world-class political theater, but the reality of this self-inflicted wound is that it could further degrade or kill our already endangered democracy.
It does not have to be this way.
Twenty years ago, the North Carolina House of Representatives faced almost the same dilemma — how to elect a leader in a chamber that was not just closely but evenly divided, 60 Democrats and 60 Republicans. It was high drama, indeed. Republicans started the year with a 61-59 majority, but one Republican switched parties, so it was back to 60-60, with 61 votes needed to elect a Speaker.
Democrats backed the incumbent two-term Speaker, while Republicans squabbled among themselves and the various factions of the party — shades of Washington today.
Voting continued for the first week of the 2003-2004 session, with no candidate receiving 61 votes, which meant, as in Washington, that the House could not conduct any business for the people of North Carolina. By the second week, reality had set in, and Democrats and a group of moderate Republicans agreed on a power-sharing agreement, a co-speakership, one Democrat and one Republican. Each Speaker had his own staff, his own office, and his own gavel. They presided over the House Chamber on alternate days.
It is an interesting historical footnote that Patrick McHenry (R-NC), who presided over the U.S. House’s recent efforts to elect a speaker, was a member of the N.C. House during the co-speakership.
Representatives who served in the N.C. House during the two-year co-speakership remember it as a routine session in which most bills moved along smoothly. Few controversial issues were addressed, however, primarily because if something were too conservative for the Democratic Speaker or too liberal for the Republican Speaker, it was unlikely to see the light of day in a committee, much less on the House floor.
Issues painful for one side or the other were kicked down the road until the House got back to “normal.” It was a time of governing from the center, not from either side, and it was not all bad. There are Americans on both sides of the “extreme,” but most of us, both Democrats and Republicans, are in the moderate middle. The actions of our elected officials should reflect that reality.
A judge once told me he knew he had handled a legal issue fairly if both sides left the courtroom “mildly miffed.”
That is precisely what we need from our U.S. House of Representatives. Legislating is not a contest between two sides. It is our elected public servants acting in the best interests of our state and nation, and if one side does not get its way all the time, the legislative process is working.
The U.S. House should look at what the North Carolina House did two decades ago. It is far preferable to be “mildly miffed” than foaming at the mouth.

For years, there has been a small group of silent, disgruntled individuals who have been waging a guerilla-style war against Hope Mills Mayor Jackie Warner and those who advocate for progress and growth in the beautiful town of Hope Mills.