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Mama, Dada, Baby makes three—or more

If you are an American of childbearing age, Vice President JD Vance wants you to have a baby—and NOW! What’s more, he wants mom or dad, though most likely mom, to stay home with babies and young children. This is from a man who ran for public office on a ticket of getting big government out of Americans’ personal lives, and having a baby and raising a family is about as personal as it gets.
6That said, Vance is far from alone in his concern about our nation’s declining birth rate and spouting ideas of what to do about it. The National Center for Disease Control, the CDC, reports that our birth rate has dropped steadily since the baby-booming 1950s, accelerating downward with the financial crisis of 2007-08, and reaching its lowest point ever in 2023 at 1.6 children for American women of childbearing age. The base population replacement level is considered 2.1 children per mother.
In blunt terms, the US population now has a shrinking fertility rate.
It could be worse.
South Korea holds the title for the fewest children born in any country, with a fertility rate of 0.72 per childbearing woman. Korean schools, now empty, are being repurposed for seniors. Other Asian nations, as well as European countries, face growing crises as well. Nations with the highest fertility rates are in Africa.
Population experts say the causes of falling birth rates are many and vary from nation to nation. These include delayed marriage and childbirth, high cost of living and high stress in work cultures, changing social values, gender inequity, and aging populations which put more financial and emotional stress on younger people.
I don’t know about you, but I see young people around me facing all these hurdles.
Vance and the so-called “natalist” movement believe that having large families benefits society and ultimately allows the human race to continue. Maybe so, but how to convince people of child-bearing age in our country and elsewhere to get to work creating more and larger families?
As far as I can tell, Vance and others have some ideas, though no universal agreement about them. Most of those ideas involve my tax dollars and yours. They include paid parental leave, increasing child tax credits, paying parents to stay home to care for preschoolers, paying relatives, likely grandma, to provide child care, lowering day care standards to make it more affordable, lower-cost housing, and the list goes on and on.
Note that Vance and other pro-natalists rarely mention who is going to pay for all this, and certainly do not mention the American taxpayer.
As the mother of three and grandmother of two, I know firsthand and now watch how difficult it is to raise children in today’s economy. Daycare now averages over $11,000 annually per child and is higher in more urban areas. Most families have two working parents, with less than a quarter of children having a stay-at-home mom and a mere 1 percent with a stay-at-home dad.
If I could wave my magic wand over this situation, I would make it so every family could choose what sort of family situation works best for them, regardless of cost, but that is a fantasy, of course.
In the meantime, I will pay no attention to Vance and the pro-natalists until they quit “setting the table” about what the problem is and realistically address what it will take to make raising a family something Americans not only want to do but can afford to do.

Letter to the Editor: A critical response to reframing narrative of “Black Fatigue”

The concept of Black fatigue, as originally articulated, referred to the profound and chronic stress experienced by Black Americans as a result of systemic racism and enduring racial injustice. A revisionist interpretation, however, has gradually broadened the term to include the frustrations expressed by both conservative white and Black Americans in response to contemporary cultural and political narratives.
This expanded definition, advanced by voices such as J. Antoine Miner, Sr., in his article "Black Fatigue: A Call for Accountability, Not Accusation" (Up & Coming Weekly, Vol. 30, Issue 21, May 21–27, 2025, https://www.upandcomingweekly.com/views/11466-black-fatigue-a-call-for-accountability-not-accusation), warrants closer scrutiny. While these revisionist perspectives raise emotionally charged and rhetorically compelling arguments, particularly around accountability and agency, a more rigorous and balanced analysis reveals that the complex interplay of systemic injustice, cultural expression, and community responsibility must be understood as interrelated forces rather than competing ones.
First, the article critiques the persistent invocation of systemic racism to explain social challenges in Black communities, suggesting that this perspective deflects from personal responsibility.
Yet this binary, systemic critique versus personal accountability, is a false one. The two are not mutually exclusive. In fact, empirical research repeatedly shows that structural disadvantages and personal agency interact in shaping outcomes. For instance, a 2020 report by the Brookings Institution found that Black Americans are disproportionately affected by systemic inequalities, including attendance at underfunded schools, residence in economically disadvantaged areas with limited employment opportunities, and exposure to discriminatory policing practices.
These factors collectively contribute to persistent cycles of poverty and criminalization (Brookings, 2020). Ignoring these systemic conditions in favor of solely promoting “tough love” approaches misses the broader context that constrains individual choices.
Needless to say, the article’s call for community accountability is not without merit. Anecdotal and sociological evidence suggests that internal critiques have long existed within the Black community. Figures like Malcolm X, Bill Cosby (before his legal downfall), and academic scholars like John McWhorter have all raised alarms about internal cultural decay and the danger of glorifying dysfunction in music and media.
Indeed, in his 2004 NAACP speech, Cosby famously decried a “culture of disrespect,” drawing both applause and condemnation. More recently, McWhorter’s Woke Racism (2021) argues that progressive overreach has infantilized Black communities rather than empowering them. These voices reflect a real tension: how to acknowledge historical and ongoing oppression without reducing Black identity to perpetual victimhood.
Still, the framing in the article leans heavily into conservative talking points without sufficiently addressing how narratives of “Black-on-Black crime” or “absentee fathers” are often weaponized to deflect from the government’s role in perpetuating inequality.
For example, the “absentee father” trope, while a legitimate concern, is frequently misrepresented. According to a 2013 CDC study, Black fathers are statistically more involved with their children on average than fathers of other races, particularly in daily caregiving activities (CDC, 2013). While incarceration and economic instability have certainly strained Black family structures, the causes are deeply rooted in discriminatory housing, employment, and criminal justice policies.
A one-sided emphasis on personal failure obscures this broader truth.
Moreover, the piece critiques expressions of Black culture, especially in music, as glorifying ignorance or “thug life.” While some mainstream hip-hop certainly romanticizes violence or materialism, this view ignores the genre’s rich tradition of protest, resilience, and social commentary.
From Public Enemy to Kendrick Lamar, hip-hop has often served as a voice for marginalized Black youth, speaking to the very injustices that the article downplays. Blanket condemnation of such cultural expression risks silencing a vital outlet of community identity and resistance.
What the article does succeed in highlighting is a palpable frustration shared by many Black Americans, particularly those who feel politically or ideologically alienated from the mainstream civil rights discourse. This fatigue is not new.
Figures like Booker T. Washington and later Shelby Steele have long argued that moral uplift, education, and individual effort should form the backbone of Black advancement. It's important not to dismiss the renewed interest in these views among some community members, particularly as urban violence, economic disparities, and political polarization remain pressing concerns.
Still, genuine progress requires marrying personal responsibility with structural reform, rather than pitting one against the other.
In communities like Fayetteville, mentioned in the article, the answer lies in both community-driven reform and policy support. Programs that invest in youth mentorship, vocational training, and mental health resources, such as Chicago’s Becoming a Man initiative, have shown success in reducing school dropout rates and criminal activity. Such initiatives model how cultural change and structural intervention can go hand in hand.
In conclusion, Black fatigue is a real and multifaceted phenomenon. Instead of using it as a rhetorical tool to pit community accountability against systemic critique, a far more effective strategy is to embrace both. While the community must indeed take ownership of its challenges, that ownership needs to be robustly supported by policies and cultural narratives that genuinely empower, rather than shame.
True progress won't come from denying the past or assigning all blame to it. It will emerge from deeply acknowledging how history continues to shape the present and collectively committing to a future of shared responsibility.
References
Brookings Institution. (2020). Examining systemic racism in the United States. https://www.brookings.edu
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). (2013). Fathers’ involvement with their children: United States, 2006–2010. National Health Statistics Reports. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr071.pdf
Cosby, Bill. (2004). “The Pound Cake Speech.” https://www.blackpast.org/african-american-history/2004-bill-cosby-pound-cake-speech/
McWhorter, John. (2021). Woke racism: How a new religion has betrayed Black America. Portfolio.

Troy's Perspective: Youth curfews in Fayetteville

Children should not be used as political tools. Many concerning events are occurring in Fayetteville, and our political conflicts are increasingly intense. While these battles impact our children, it's essential to remember that their role is to enjoy their childhood, while ours is to protect them and ensure a secure future. We should not use them to advance our agendas, incite anger, or create division before they can develop their opinions.
Curfews, old laws requiring adolescents to stay off the streets during specific hours, are experiencing a resurgence. As curfew laws become more popular, youth advocates are increasingly working to oppose them.
7For politicians, curfew laws effectively convey an image of being tough on law-and-order issues.
A couple of recent high-profile shootings in Fayetteville have affected our community, reopening a discussion many believed was resolved about 18 months ago. Our community is understandably feeling frustrated and fearful. Residents want the police to act, even though there is only a weak connection between enforcing a youth curfew and preventing the violence we are currently facing.
The last time Fayetteville considered a curfew, public opposition prevented any plans to implement this measure. This time, Mayor Mitch Colvin of Fayetteville opted for a bold new strategy to accomplish his goals. According to several members of the Fayetteville City Council, Mayor Colvin called for a curfew without consulting all the council members. Colvin stated he was ready to declare a state of emergency, allowing him to make decisions without the Council's consent. Colvin's tenure as mayor has been plagued by violent crime and homicides; why is this curfew being initiated now? Many citizens find the timing suspect.
Councilmember Mario
Benanvante said, "City Council has previously claimed that we don't want to tell police how to police, but imposing this criminalization curfew proves our hypocrisy. The chief of police made it clear at the meeting that his officers are already capable of initiating contact and arriving at articulable reasonable suspicion if they need to take action, no matter what time of day. We are not giving the police an additional tool. We are simply creating unnecessary interactions with young people who should be met with help, not handcuffs."
Despite numerous unanswered questions, the Fayetteville City Council voted to implement the youth curfew during its meeting on May 27. Councilmember Lynne Greene, one of the four members who opposed the measure, stated, "We are rushing a process that should not be rushed."
Mayor Colvin's thinking is difficult to understand. Two of the three most vulnerable communities for violence in Fayetteville are located along Murchison Road, where Colvin Funeral Home is situated. This issue has persisted since he first took office. A few years ago, in the Broadell subdivision, a young boy was killed in a drive-by shooting in his front yard. Colvin himself grew up in Broadell, just a block off Murchison Road. None of this pushed him over the edge, but a no-injury shooting at the Dogwood Festival did.
Is it just politics again? Only time will tell.

Publisher's Pen: Cumberland County Commissioners abandon downtown Crown Event Center project

Jami McLaughlin’s comprehensive report and recap of the June 4 meeting of the Cumberland County Board of Commissioners confirm their decisive 5-2 vote to discontinue the proposed downtown Crown Event Center project. Instead, the Board will proceed with the modernization of the existing Crown Theater and Arena. McLaughlin, Director of Government Relations and Military Affairs for the Greater Fayetteville Chamber of Commerce and author of the "Government Watch" section in Up & Coming Weekly newspaper, provides an accurate and factual account, directing readers to the sources and facts that ultimately led to the Board's decision.
4Her detailed reporting is crucial for residents seeking accurate information amidst a deluge of inaccurate content posted on Facebook and local social media. We strongly encourage residents to view the June 4 meeting at www.cumberlandcountync.gov or on YouTube before posting or sharing a social media opinion about their decision.
The June 4 meeting unequivocally affirmed Chairman Kirk deViere’s integrity, patience, and resolve in leading the Cumberland County Board of Commissioners and looking out for the interests of all county residents. Chairman deViere demonstrated exemplary and respectful statesmanship, maintaining calm and decorum throughout a highly intense and sometimes rude and disrespectful discussion.
Equally commendable were the presentations by Commissioners Henry Tyson and Pavan Patel, who took the time and made the effort to do personal inspections of the Theater and Arena and cross-referenced their findings with the architects' reports.
Commissioner Tyson's presentation was particularly compelling, presenting evidence that indicated grossly inflated renovation cost estimates for the existing properties, which were suspect and appeared designed to render it financially unfeasible. It cannot be definitively determined whether the advocates of the downtown Crown Event Center intentionally manipulated these figures, however, the commitment of Chairman deViere and Commissioners Patel and Tyson to safeguard Cumberland County assets and resources and direct them to improve the quality of life for all Cumberland County citizens—a core tenet of their political campaigns—remains clear.
All three were initial supporters of the downtown Event Center project; however, upon assuming responsibility for the proposed $145 million endeavor, they prioritized and initiated a thorough vetting process for the sole purpose of ensuring judicious expenditure of taxpayer dollars and addressing emerging concerns.
This action led to a pause in construction as significant "red flags" began to materialize. Concerns about parking, escalating construction costs, accusations of "side deals," and potential conflicts of interest relating to county contracts negotiated and approved with sitting commissioners. These were questions and concerns that needed to be addressed with comprehensive answers. They were, and consequently led the Cumberland County Board of Commissioners to vote 5-2 against moving forward with the downtown Crown Event Center project. It was determined that the way the project was structured it would have primarily benefited a select few, but it was not in the best interest of the county’s 335,000 residents.
I applaud the Board of Commissioners for their hard work. It is this caliber of intelligent, honest, and dedicated leadership that will provide the vision necessary to propel our community forward into a prosperous 21st Century and elevate Cumberland County beyond its Tier One status. Thank you for reading Up & Coming Weekly newspaper.
—Bill Bowman, Publisher

On June 4, the Cumberland County Board of Commissioners voted 5-2 to discontinue the downtown Crown Event Center and terminate all contracts associated with the project. The board moved to have staff draft a Request for Quotation to renovate and modernize the existing Crown Arena and Theater at 1960 Coliseum Drive.
“This decision was not made lightly,” said Board of Commissioners Chairman Kirk deViere. “But it reflects our commitment to fiscal responsibility, transparent governance, and practical solutions that serve the long-term interests of our residents.”
The proposed 3000-seat Crown Event Center had been approved by the board to be built downtown in 2022. Construction started shortly after a groundbreaking ceremony was held in October 2024. It was budgeted at $144.5 million and scheduled to open Spring 2027.
However, in March, the board voted to suspend all work on the facility for 30 days to review and investigate the scope, schedule, and budget for the project. The status assessment of the project included an “additional architect’s fee” of $1.9 million from EwingCole, which had been flagged for concern, according to the board.
In the last few weeks, the board worked through hours of meetings to go over research including a 1000 page investigative report from attorney J. Scott Flowers of Hutchens Law Firm in Fayetteville who had served as neutral counsel and other reports including a Crown Theater Modernization and New Facility Comparison, a Multi-Purpose Event Center Parking Assessment, an Evaluation to Modernize the Crown Arena and more. These reports can be found on the Cumberland County website.
The board ultimately determined that the estimated cost of the Crown Event Center was too high and that looking at the renovation of the current 4,500-seat Crown Arena at $71.9 million and the 2,400-seat Crown Theater, which varied from $24.7 million (just for renovation) to $118 million depending on modernization and expansion would be more prudent for the community.
Commissioners voting to discontinue the downtown Crown Event Center Project and terminate all contracts, reject the GMP3 amendment and direct the County Manager to develop an RFQ for development framework for the renovation of the Crown Arena and Theater within 30 days and bring it back to the board, included Chair Kirk deViere and Commissioners Jeannette Council, Pavan Patel, Henry Tyson and Marshall Faircloth. Voting to continue the project with the increased price tag were Commissioner Glenn Adams and Vice Chair Veronica Jones.
Read the rest on page 7.

(Photo: The Cumberland County Commissioners held a meeting, June 4, to decide the fate of the downtown Crown Event Center. Photo courtesy of Jami McLaughlin)

Journey into Grimms' tales: The brave little tailor

Today we head back into the dark forest of Grimms’ Fractured Fairy Tales to learn the importance of self-confidence coupled with the ability to exaggerate. Come take a look behind the reality distortion field to learn how killing flies can lead to becoming King. Any similarity between the little tailor and current events is purely coincidental.
6Once upon a time, there was a little tailor who spent his days sewing in obscurity. One day he made a jam sandwich for lunch. He wanted to finish a jacket before eating his lunch. He set the sandwich in his window.
A swarm of flies, which had been dining on the corpse of a dog, smelled the jam and flew up for dessert. They landed on his bread, aggravating the tailor. He grabbed a piece of cloth and smote the flies to get them off his sandwich.
After his smiting, seven flies lay dead on the bread. He was overjoyed at his victory. He immediately sewed a golden sash with the words “SEVEN WITH ONE BLOW” to commemorate his glorious heroism.
To show the town what a hero he was, he set out on a quest wearing his beautiful sash. He stuffed a handful of cream cheese and a bird into his vest pocket and proceeded to promenade. He ran into a Giant at the top of a mountain.
The Giant saw the tailor’s sash, which impressed him with the tailor’s boast of killing seven men. The Giant decided to test how strong the tailor was. The Giant crushed a rock with his bare hands and dared the tailor to do the same.
The tailor pulled out the wad of cream cheese and squeezed it until water ran out, telling the Giant that it was better than the Giant’s rock crushing. The Giant then picked up a boulder, throwing it into the air until it went so high it was out of sight, then eventually falling to the ground. The tailor said, “That’s nothing. When I throw a rock, it never comes down.”
The tailor pulled the bird out of his vest and tossed it into the air. The bird flew away, never to be seen again. (Giants, though big, are easy to fool.)
Bored with Giant fooling, the tailor went on his way to the King’s castle. The peasants saw his sash with SEVEN WITH ONE BLOW, and ran to tell the King. The King decided he needed to make the tailor the Field Marshal of his army due to his ability to kill seven men with one blow. The King’s army was unhappy about this promotion as they feared the tailor could kill them all. The army asked the King to rethink the promotion.
The King, who was already having second thoughts about making the tailor Field Marshal, began to worry the tailor might kill him. The King, like most fairy tale kings, had a beautiful daughter whom he promised would marry the tailor and receive half his kingdom as her dowry if the tailor would perform a little task of killing two Giants.
The tailor cheerfully agreed to off the Giants. He found them sleeping under a big tree. He climbed the tree and dropped stones onto the Giants, waking them up. Each Giant thought the other one was hitting him.
Angry, they fought each other until both were dead. Mission accomplished. The King was sincerely nervous now. If the tailor could kill Giants, what could he do to a mere king? He assigned the tailor another task of capturing a rogue rhinoceros. The tailor tricked the rhino into getting stuck in a tree and then saved him. The rhino was so grateful that he became tame.
The King came up with a final task of catching the meanest wild boar in the forest. The tailor trapped the boar in a woodland chapel, fulfilling his quest.
The King had no choice but to marry his daughter to the tailor. To quote Grimm: “The wedding was arranged with great splendor but with little joy.” (Many other weddings to this day have followed this pattern.) On their wedding night, the Princess heard the tailor talking in his sleep, saying: “Hurry up with that jacket and patch the trousers or I’ll clout you with a yardstick.”
The Princess told the King that “I think my husband is nothing but a common tailor.” The King told her to leave her bedroom door unlocked that night.
When the tailor was asleep, the King’s servants would tie him up and put him on a slow boat to China.
Word of this plot got back to the tailor. That night, the tailor pretended to be asleep when the servants came to the bedroom door. He yelled, “I’ve slaughtered seven with one blow, killed two giants, tamed a wild rhino, and captured a wild boar; I’m not afraid of quivering servants standing outside the bedroom.” This scared the Bejeezus out of the servants, who ran away.
The tailor became king and lived happily ever after with the beautiful Princess.
Moral: As George Costanza said about beating the polygraph, “It’s not a lie if you believe it.”

(Illustration by Pitt Dickey)

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