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Six tips to help calm first day of school jitters

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Starting school for the first time or simply returning to campus after another summer break can lead to mixed feelings. Kids may be excited to see their friends every day, but that comes at the price of the end of lazy summer days.
The first day of school is on the horizon, and parents may discover their children seem a bit despondent that vacation is coming to a close. Such feelings may stem from more than the end of summer vacation. Some students may be nervous about going to school. New faces, new experiences and new teachers can lead to a little anxiety. Here are some ways to tame the nerves.
• Do a trial run. Before school starts, do a test run to the drop-off location, bus stop or pick up whomever will be carpooling together. Getting into that routine can help reduce nervousness.
• Participate in meet-and-greets. Some schools offer certain events designed to introduce students even before classes begin. Schools may host ice cream socials or picnic lunches on school grounds, particularly for younger grades. These events give children an opportunity to get to know their classmates before the first school bell rings.
• Take a school tour. If a student is about to start in a new school or will be attending school for the first time, families will want to see if they can get tours of the school and facilities. Just one glance inside can be enough to familiarize students with the lay of the land, which might make things less scary on the first day.
• Check the class list. Some schools do not provide a list of all students in particular classes, but increasingly those that rely on programs like Google Classroom or Canvas may enable students to see who will be in their class. Children also can use social apps like Instagram and Snapchat to locate school-associated groups to find other students. Parents and their children can brainstorm how to deal with other students who may have been difficult in the past, while also perusing lists for friendly faces.
• Practice conversation skills. Many modern kids have their eyes locked on devices. They may be a little rusty with ice breakers and initiating conversation. Role playing at home can give kids some ideas of how to forge new relationships in the classroom.
• Recognize and take concerns seriously. Parents and other caregivers can be receptive to conversation with children regarding their concerns about starting school. Talking about feelings can help kids tame their nervousness, especially when adults take them seriously.
Children may be nervous about starting school. Parents, caregivers and teachers can work together to help students overcome these jitters quickly.

Shahbain Farms and Event Center comes to Raeford

18From the ornate crystal chandlers to the marble flooring, every inch of Shahbain Farms and Event Center has been meticulously selected to create an extraordinary venue, ready to be the backdrop of events from weddings to birthdays. Located at 469 Posey Farm Road, Raeford, this 30,000-square-foot space is the epitome of luxury starting from the palm-lined drive into the parking space, to the grand staircase that greets guests as they enter through the door. The grounds around the event center feature a pond, gazebos and a fountain. Shahbain was built for luxury, boasting 3 Grand Ballrooms, all with a capacity of 1200 people and a 4th “Smoke Lounge” Ballroom, that provides guest with a more unique and niche experience during their event. Twenty-five-foot doors separate the ballrooms and add to the sophistication of the space. The event center features a range of amenities including:
• 10 Hour Rentals
• Venue Manager on Duty
• Crème and gold trim chairs
• 60-inch plastic round tables and 8-foot plastic rectangular tables
• Cake table, sweetheart table, cocktail tables, and 72-inch glass with gold trim tables
• Luxurious restrooms
• VIP parking spaces
• LED lighting system in the fourth ballroom
• Sound system, TVs, and free WiFi
• Indoor smoking ballroom
• Outdoor fountain
• Live horses and a commercial kitchen
• Onsite rentals, a kids’ facility, and a bridal suite
• 2 Indoor prep kitchens
• Commercial Kitchen
• Prayer Room
They also offer a range of services including preferred vendor options and bar packages. Shahbain has partnered with the premier carters, decorators, photographers, videographers and event planners, ensuring clients have the best experience every time they come.
Owner Jamal Shahbain has taken great care in creating an event venue that provides luxury, sophistication and elegance to Raeford and surrounding areas. Settling in Raeford over 25 years ago with his family, Shahbain has always envisioned having a venue in the area that would create the perfect setting for proms, galas, socials and corporate events. The venue’s Director and Operational Manager DeNice Green, has been in the event planning and design industry for over a decade, making her the perfect fit for executing the vision of clients.
Newly opened Shahbain Farms and Event Center has already hosted several events, including a grand wedding, officially marking the opening of the venue. They have also hosted a back-to-school giveaway, supporting local families with school supplies as the beginning of the school year draws closer and a soft opening for vendors. The soft opening gave local vendors and opportunity to tour the venue, and discuss opportunities to be a listed preferred vendor. Coming up on Nov. 3rd, the venue will host The Majority Greek Awards, also known as the Pearly Awards, an event that highlights the community service and involvement of members of black fraternities and sororities in the area. To purchase tickets to this upcoming event, visit the website at https://www.majoritygreek.com/event-details/pearly-awards-fay-2024.
For more information visit the Shahbain Farms and Event Center website at https://shahbaineventcenter.com/. For booking visit https://shahbainfarmseventcenter.hbportal.co/public/66a1c2eeb0236b001fbfc4bf/1-Schedule_your_session.

(Photo:The Shahbain Farms and Event Center is the newest venue in Raeford. The events center has 3 grand ballrooms, a "smoke lounge" ballroom, and outdoor features such as a pond, gazebo and fountain. Photo courtesy of Shahbain Farms and Event Center Facebook page)

Local Jen Britt opens Pink Petunia in Haymount

15After spending six years operating The Pink Petunia, Jen Britt knew it was time for a change when the business finally took over almost four rooms in her house. She scouted a retail location in Fayetteville's Haymount neighborhood and signed the lease on Christmas day for 1325 Hay St.
“I said, ‘this will be the best or worst Christmas present I have given myself.’ And it truly has been the best,” she recounted. They’ve been operating out of their new storefront since April of this year.
The Pink Petunia is a specialty shop featuring gifts, monogramming services, custom art, home decorating services, children’s clothes, and more. Britt’s multi-faceted small business is built on decades of experience. She spent 22 years as a national sales manager for five major gift companies. During that time, she traveled to China for product development, ran sales forces nationwide, and designed major show rings in Los Angeles, Dallas, Atlanta, and New York.
Art was always a part of her life too. Though she graduated as a communications major and didn’t pursue a formal art education, her grandmother’s influence early in life pushed her to develop her artistic gifts.
"I was very close with my mom's mom growing up and watched her paint. That's where I really picked it up. So, I dabbled in it early in my 20s. On the side of my real job, I would do hand-painted pillows, indoor-outdoor pillows, and custom-painted orders.”
She continued to expand outside of her day job, decorating homes for Christmas and eventually having a home featured in the downtown loft tour. Hints of her future business venture started to emerge, even influencing her eventual choice of business name.
“Pink is one of my favorite colors, and Petunia was one of my grandmother’s (my Mimi’s) favorite flowers. She loved to garden and the name pays homage to her,” Britt said.
As Britt’s career in the gift industry progressed, she faced decisions that would ultimately open doors for the birth of her small business and her daughter, Walker. Britt and her husband were facing fertility issues, so she quit her corporate job and began the IVF process, which she described as a “round-the-clock” job. While home, she continued to paint custom pillows and pursue home decorating opportunities.
“That's really when Pink Petunia began, and I created a business at my home.”
Then came Walker.15a
“She is our miracle baby.” Britt gushed. Walker is now 4 and Britt says she’s completely comfortable at the Pink Petunia.
“Now that we're in the storefront, Walker loves to go up to Mommy's store. She calls it the Pink “Tetunia” with a “t”. She loves to come in and make herself at home, speak to the customers and play in mommy’s store. I hope one day that she will take it over. She definitely loves painting and art like I do. I hope that as she grows older, she'll come in here and work alongside me,” Britt said.
Over time, Britt knew hand-painted pillows weren’t sufficient, so she purchased an industrial monogram machine and added it to the list of services.
“Today I’ve expanded to interior decorating and seasonal decoration, especially around Christmas. My interior decorating clients I work with in a multitude of ways — from rebuilds to a refresh of rooms in their homes. I do rebuilds from the ground up, decorate single rooms, and decorate seasonally for fall and Christmas,” said Britt. “There's also the gift shop, custom monogramming, and custom art - where I have commissioned pieces I paint, and you can find a lot in my store. I take commissioned art pieces for homes and businesses. And I just added children's clothing, so that portion is called Little Petunias.”
With something for everyone, Britt is delighted that their new location means more traffic and relationships. Since moving into the Fayetteville community, her customer base has quadrupled.
“Many people that were not aware of my business have come in and shopped with us for the first time. On a day-to-day basis, I’m meeting tons of people who have learned about the Pink Petunia for the first time, and I love that. It's very exciting.”
She’s even seen the development of friendships through The Pink Petunia.
"Many of my clients that come to me as strangers become very good friends.” She loves that these relationships are ongoing, and considers her customers part of “The Pink Petunia family.”
Moving forward, Britt says they’re planning to incorporate fun events into the shopping experience and encourages the community to keep track of The Pink Petunia's Facebook and Instagram pages for updates.

(Photo: Above: The store front of the Pink Petunia is decked out in bright pinks. The store, located at 1325 Hay Street in Haymount, is the brain child of Jen Britt.
Bottom: The inside of the Pink Petunia showcases gifts, monogrammed items, and home decor items. Photos courtesy of Jen Britt)

Fayetteville Cares creates website for volunteers; Cumberland County Library receives grant

8aFayetteville Cares launches new website for volunteers
Fayetteville Cares, also known as the Day Resource Center, has launched a new website, Faycares.org, for people to volunteer, donate and support individuals and families in the city experiencing homelessness.
Manna Dream Center assumed operations on July 1 and provides showers, laundry, and meal services daily. Since that date, Manna has reported serving almost 5,000 meals, providing over 500 shower services, and over 400 laundry services during the month of July.
 “With this type of need and use, we are always looking for volunteers who can help transition and care for individuals and families experiencing homelessness,” said Pastor Cartwright, the director of Fayetteville Cares. “Please visit our website and discover the many ways you can help our most vulnerable residents.”
The website lists volunteer opportunities and ways to donate. Fayetteville Cares encourages people to visit and bookmark to learn the items and services that are most needed.

Library Receives America 250 Grant for Liberty Point Exhibit
The Cumberland County Public Library has received a $25,599.56 grant from North Carolina’s America 250 NC initiative for a project to commemorate the nation’s 250th anniversary in 2026. America 250 NC is North Carolina’s commemoration of the United States’ 250th anniversary and is led by the N.C. Department of Natural and Cultural Resources.8
The Cumberland County Public Library’s grant is for a local exhibit focusing on the Liberty Point Resolves (whose 250th anniversary is June 22, 2025), along with a local artist produced mural on the side of the Headquarters Library that will incorporate themes from Fayetteville’s history from America’s founding to the present. As part of the local exhibit, there will be historical programs and lectures relating to the themes of America 250 NC and a local American Revolution bus tour in 2026.
The Local and State History Department of the Cumberland County Public Library will also produce a publication about the Liberty Point Resolves, to be released in time for America’s 250th anniversary, with a focus on celebrating Cumberland County’s contribution to the fight for independence in North Carolina during the American Revolution.
The N.C. Department of Natural and Cultural Resources’ America 250 NC initiative recently dispersed nearly $900,000 in grant funds across 34 counties in the state. The grant program is designed to spark commemoration programs and activities on a local level.
“These America 250 grants will serve as catalysts for local participation in the nationwide commemoration of our nation’s founding,” said DNCR Secretary Reid Wilson. “We look forward to working with communities across the state to build a memorable and meaningful celebration for all North Carolinians.”
For more information about America 250 NC, visit america250.nc.gov. For more information about the Cumberland County Public Library, visit https://www.cumberlandcountync.gov/departments/library-group/library or call 910-483-7727. Follow the library on social media at facebook.com/CumberlandCountyPublicLibrary.

Cumberland County schools experience chronic absenteeism

7Ask any public school staffer in Cumberland County, and they’ll tell you — the kids are not alright.
The kids are so not alright, in fact, according to Cumberland County Schools Social Work Coordinator Pamela Story, 31.93% of the county’s public school students were chronically absent in the 2023-2024 school year. North Carolina state law defines chronic absenteeism as missing at least 10% of the days for which a student is enrolled in a public school, provided they have been enrolled for at least 10 school days that year.
A CityView analysis of North Carolina Dept. of Public Instruction reports for all of Cumberland County’s 88 public schools (including charter schools The Capitol Encore Academy and Alpha Academy) found that 34 of those schools, or about 38%, reported chronic absenteeism rates higher than the 2022-2023 county average. Furthermore, 62 schools, or about 70%, have higher chronic absenteeism rates than the statewide chronic absenteeism average of 26.73%.
‘Very concerning’
Beverly Young, a truancy support specialist for Cumberland County Schools, told CityView the district has noted a spike in attendance issues in recent years.
“Since the pandemic, there’s been a dramatic change with attendance for the kids to transition back to in-person learning,” she said.
That has continued to be a problem for Cumberland County’s public schools, Story said.
“It’s a cause for alarm,” she told CityView. “ … It’s very concerning to us here in Cumberland County. The number of disengaged students that we have is just amazing.”
Young estimates she can make up to 15 visits a week to the homes of students struggling with absenteeism. According to Story and Young, the general process in Cumberland County Schools for absences is:
1. When a student misses a class, the teacher records the absence in the school’s attendance software. This triggers a phone call home to the student’s parent or guardian.
2. If a student misses three days without a note from a parent or guardian, the teacher will call home. If that call is unsuccessful, the school social worker will try to contact a parent or guardian through any means necessary, including social media and reaching out to the student’s emergency contact. The social worker will also send a letter home.
3. When a student reaches six unexcused absences, the school social worker will send a letter home.
4. If a student exceeds 10 unexcused absences, their parent or guardian may be referred to the Cumberland County Schools’ Truancy Mediation Council or referred to the district attorney’s office. Parents and guardians can be charged with a misdemeanor at this point.
Young said the Truancy Mediation Council has proven successful in mitigating absenteeism.
“We’ve had several [children], they have finished the school year, did well on their EOGs [End of Grade examinations], their attendance improved,” she said. “I’ve had several social workers come up to me the last week of school and say, ‘Thank you for TMC [Truancy Mediation Council]. The child returned and had a good relationship with the parent and we planned for the summer.’”
The council can provide families access to additional resources, like applying for food stamps through the county health department or working with a county social worker, Young said.
According to Story and Young, improving student attendance must be a “collaborative” effort. That includes community members, Young said.
“The community can encourage that parent and remind them that every minute counts that your child is in school,” she said. “The community, if they see kids roaming around and not in school, then they need to ask a child, ‘Why aren’t you in school? What’s going on?’ They can contact the school. We’ve had many people call.”
The county’s public schools are shifting from punitive measures to more proactive measures, Story said. That’s partially because of a desire to better address the complex nature of factors that can lead to chronic absenteeism, she said.
“Since the pandemic, we have students who have gone to work. We have teen moms and teen dads,” she said. “ … We’re hearing some students have to stay home and care for ill parents or babysit younger siblings. We have a serious transportation issue here in Fayetteville.”
Families have also been more reluctant since the Covid-19 pandemic to send children to school if they have minor symptoms like a headache or the sniffles, Story added.
“Back in the day, you said you were sick, you had to be home, in the bed sick,” she said.
And as with many issues involving education, mental health plays a role in absenteeism, too, Story said.
“We’re seeing a lot of mental health problems because they were sitting behind a computer, by themselves, on a phone for a year,” she said. “ … There’s complex trauma. There’s community stress for a lot of our children. Food insecurity. It’s a multitude of factors.”
Impact on parents
Some parents have spoken out on social media about Cumberland County Schools’ approach to absenteeism, describing it as inconsistent or burdensome on families.
In response to a Facebook post from CityView, one mother noted her daughter often missed school during the Covid-19 pandemic due to automatic absence requirements if a student presented certain symptoms of Covid. Another mother said her daughter missed 28 days of school due to social anxiety, but the school only sent a letter home once.
Ashley Patoka told CityView her daughter missed about 5 hours of class each week as a kindergartner at Raleigh Road Elementary School off Ramsey Street this school year. Patoka said her child had to leave school early several days a week so she could attend occupational therapy and counseling for her autism, ADHD and sensory processing disorder. Before getting on the right medication, her daughter also was suspended from school for eight days and placed on a modified schedule because of behavioral issues, Patoka said.
“She was really struggling,” she said. “She was very keenly aware that she was not allowed to be there all day.”
The necessary absences also posed a problem for Patoka, who works full time, and her daughter’s father, who was deployed through the military in the spring, she said.
“I’m so grateful I had my parents close by, and they were able to come up and help me,” she said. “ … It was rough.”
Cumberland County Schools Unveils Attendance Reforms to Combat Chronic Absenteeism
The Cumberland County Board of Education has taken significant steps to address chronic absenteeism by approving the first reading of revised attendance Policy 4400. The Board also proclaimed September 2024 as "Attendance Awareness Month," aligning with state and national efforts to emphasize the importance of regular school attendance.
CCS is launching a district-wide attendance campaign in September. The campaign will involve collaboration with key stakeholders, including truancy support specialists, school administrators, student services staff, teachers, data managers, families, students and community members.
Key elements of the revised Policy 4400 include:
• Limiting parent/guardian notes excusing absences to 10 per year
• Requiring submission of notes within five days for absences to be excused
• Potentially retaining students in grades K-5 or denying course credit for students in grades 6-12 with 20 or more unexcused absences
Dr. Melody Chalmers McClain, associate superintendent for Student Support Services, emphasized the importance of this initiative: "Every minute a student spends in school is a step toward a brighter future. Improving attendance isn't just about meeting requirements—it's about ensuring our students have the best chance to succeed. We’re committed to partnering with families to get students to school on time, every day, so that together, we can set them up for lifelong success."
CCS is also actively working to re-engage students who have fallen behind through targeted dropout prevention programs and recovery initiatives.

Editor's note: This article was edited with new information received by Up & Coming Weekly from CCS on Aug. 14. The original article from CityView Today was published and updated July 30.

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